Agreed (again).
I know when Necromancer Games was a strident supporter of 4e I was looking forward to it. I love their stuff.
When they, and almost every other 3pp supporter, bailed due to WotC's mismanagement of the GSL in a timely manner and lack of what they saw as reasonable terms for publishing...well, I wasn't very excited for opportunites to play.
Add that to everything you mentioned (and throw in shoddy quality of the emags, especially at the beginning and "greasy gamer hands" smudging their low quality ink) and basically, the whole launch was a disaster.
I like how you point out that it's not about the GAME of 4e. So often, people tend to assume that 4e and WotC are the same. I remember when 4e launched that I was moderately interested, and was a potential customer. But all the behaviors mentioned (and there are more) basically drove me away from WotC moreso than the actual edition.
Hell, I own more 4e products from 3pps than I do from WotC. That's not by accident.
I would give you xp, but I gots to spread it around first.
I agree wholeheartedly with this. I dont have anything particularly against the ruleset, it has some quirks that could use revising, but it is easy to run at least. It is the attitude that the management of D&D has consistently shown that really grates on me. From the announcement, where 3.5 was bad n'kay, to the not delivering on the products announced, to the rather poor support the game has seen, I just dont feel like I want to spend my money on a low quality product from a company that used to put out good books.