I think at least some of the problematic nature of the description of the Gur comes from the fact that, while Gypsy often has a pejorative connotation in Continental Europe and is often considered an ethnic slur there, that same pejorative history does not exist in the United States, where Gypsy is considered largely an innocuous synonym for Romani.
Is considered by whom? By Romani? It seems hardly relevant if non-Roma Americans consider that word an ethnic slur.