Hiya.
TheSword said:
@pming There is a world of difference between recognizing a currently marginalized segment of society within the elf race (a mainstream popular heroic race) and relegating them to a monster-race off shoot of a brain eating fundamentally dishonest creature. If you don’t see a relevance to that I’m not going to try and change your world view. I’ll just say it matters to the people it matters to, and is irrelevant to those it doesn’t matter to.
In regards to what I bolded above...
The first bold: this is one thing I just don't see. I'm sure it happens, but where I live (waaaaay up in northern Canada)...not so much. I have a bi-sexual friend, worked with two gay guys and (due to the long hair I have and short stature) I've been hit on by all manner of men...some gay, some drunk (some maybe both! LOL!). Of all the people I know, I can think of two that "just don't like gay people". They can't explain why, they both say that gay guys (they are both men) just kinda make them all "icky feeling". Uncomfortable. They don't care if someone's gay, they just don't like being around them because they feel wierd. ...shrug... Anyway, in my experience the whole "marginalization" thing just, well, isn't a thing any more than someones religion, politics or favourite hockey team is (ok, the latter can get folks into some pretty heated debates...but that's ok, it helps keep us warm in winter...

).
As for the second bold: I couldn't agree more. The only "problem" I see is when one side/person makes a big deal out of it so much, pushes their view/stance so hard, that others feel like they are being attacked or denigrated because they have different views. THAT, imnsho, is the bigger issue; intolerant people...on all sides. Intolerance is the enemy of acceptance, after all. I deal with it all by washing my hands of it and going hard-core
I don't care. If someone plays a transexual elf in my game, I can deal with it...but they better not expect to be treated "special/blessed/with honour" or otherwise be given special consideration and special exemptions. Not going to happen.
But this is all "real life" stuff trickling into the D&D game by designers who...well...I'm not sure why, exactly I guess it's a trend or something. Like [MENTION=23751]Maxperson[/MENTION] said, he/we use it as a:
"...restful escape from reality that I use D&D for". This is a fantasy RPG. If a group wants to explore " ...a kind of a psycho-drama, you might say, where people deal with problems in their lives by acting them out", to quote one intrepid reporter named Bud Hayden down at Peekquad Caverns ( @0:45,
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2VgqZB8u3h4 
), then go for it. What I vehemently oppose is official products trying to "force" me to use D&D to address real life issues. No thank you, Evil!
It's a slippery slope WotC is treading...the majority of D&D players, I would guess, want to play D&D; they want to make a character that isn't them, take that PC into deadly areas they would never go, kill monsters that don't exist, and recover vast treasure they will never have. "...and have deep, meaningful conversations about real-world issues that affects their real lives" is probably waaaaaaaaaaay down on the list.
I just want to DM an orc that defends against those pesky adventurers that keep kicking down his door to try and take his damn pie!
^_^
Paul L. Ming