Lyxen
Great Old One
Aside from at least one person's strikingly absurd one-true-way-ism and humorously arbitrary rules for verisimilitude (which I will admit was once my ideal), what I mostly get from this thread is that many, if not most, people use a range of these tools in different ways, at different times, to different degrees, sometimes more or less expertly than other times or other people - and steadfastly holding on to the extremes at either end, while fine if everyone at the table is into it, is more likely to lead to boring lulls, needless frustration, absurd unchallenging results, just acting out the DM's screenplay and less fun all around.
And even then, I am pretty sure that, when actually playing with real players around a real table, the "extreme" proponents are actually not that strict around their table practices, this is the internet, you need to be extreme to think that you will convince anyone (and then you will probably fail anyway, even if you instill some ideas, I don't think that anyone around here actually changes their mind after someone else's post, and even if they do, they won't tell).

Once again, I want to do my "I sit in on your home game" docu-series.
That would be really interesting, but probably hard to do. That being said, some of us have summaries of play (mine are always done by the players, which I think is more representative of what really happened), it can give you an idea as to how the games really go. One might argue that, linked to this thread, you will not get the DM's perspective, but when the DM is making the summary, I have never seen one say "there, I fudged because..."
