Vaalingrade
Legend
In my experience, most people's approach to death doesn't vary whether they're the player or DM. It's more about how they view stakes and how they view investment in their character.It always seems to me the people enthusiastiac about death possibility in these discussions aren’t the people doing the dying. Or aren’t the people that spent months working on a backstory For a promised year plus campaign. The answer is never what the dm wants their Game to be like really I think, it’s what the players want, the majority wants, everyone gets a vote but the dm just has one.
Typically, people who like death view it as the ultimate or most important stake (or even the only one) and/or put the onus of those stakes on the player rather than the character. They also are much more likely to not be so attached to their character and just ready to roll a new one. Not universal obviously (I'm sure someone will write at least five paragraphs berating me on that point despite this very disclaimer), so I think it's unfair to them to suggest they prefer lethality because they're not doing the dying.