hawkeyefan
Legend
My take would be DM prep is important because it helps include player agency. It is not more important, nor is it removing, it is helping the DM to make sure it is there.
That's all fine... but what do you do when the two somehow come into conflict? That's why the background features are a good example... they involve the player deciding what happens.
So when DM prep and player agency are at odds, which do you go with?
I tend to agree with this. A busy port, an old sailor friend that needs to pay off a debt to the PC, etc. One can always come up with alternatives. But that doesn't mean a DM needs to have it on the spot. The DM could say no to the sailor. And yet, at the next session come up with a scoundrel character that will give them passage or an old friend with a debt that will do it because he owes the PC. Nothing is wrong with a DM needing time to work things out. Just like there is nothing wrong with a player suggesting their feature should work.
It seems reasonable, but why would they need a lot of time to come up with a ship and a captain?
I 100% agree. Each time I DM, I do trust my players. A lot. I think that is what helps reciprocate the trust back.
Absolutely!
Not to butt in, but I'm going to...
The example being given is a player declares they need secure an audience with the noble of Brass City? This is a place that has 3,000 efreet fanatical guards. It has an army that dwarfs the largest Faerun armies. So, if the nobles don't care to see the noble of Saltmarsh, or instead say they will see him, but that they need to wait 58 years, then that seems logical.
Could the DM come up with a reason and get them in on the spot. Sure. But what that instantly does is deteriorate the setting. And that is something no one ever talks about. Sure, your character has this privilege. But that privilege should not damage the story's setting. A noble that needs to placate 3,000 fanatical efreets or 100,000 efreet soldiers might not care about the Saltmarsh noble.
But here is a question: What if the noble sent word that the group had to go retrieve this for him prior to talking to them. Would that be okay?
I don't know if that would be necessary, but I think it's okay! The important thing is that the DM is responding to the player.
The use of the background feature is literally a player saying "hey, I'm interested in this". They not only chose it as a background, and so it's relevant to their character, but they've also invoked it in this instance of play. The DM taking this and building on it is honoring player agency. Taking the player's idea and building on it.
Letting the player's ideas direct play, not just disregarding them and going back to what the DM had planned.