GrimCo
Hero
And that is the crux of the matter.Depends on your relationship outside the game. I only run games for friends, so not only is it highly likely the ex-player would sooner or later find out, it's possible that if the player doesn't like it there'll be some harsh words said - hardly good for a continuing friendship.![]()
If DM and player are friends or at least good acquaintances, and player asks DM to not use his PC after he leaves game, DM will probably honor that request. If they are not friends, he might say ok and not use it, say ok and still use it or straight out tell person to go pound sand. Personally, i'm in the last category. If you come to my game as a stranger and leave it as a stranger, but your character is important in the story, i'll use it as I see fit and tell person to go pound sand.
Player owns his character in a sense that no one can take it away from him. It's a concept that resides in players mind. When he leaves table, he can use that concept at any other table, hell, he can reuse it at the same table in different game. But at the same time, when you enter the game, your character is copied in memories of all the others at the table, including DM. That copy remains at that table, and if the player leaves it, DM and group (but usually DM) decides what to do with it.