There's a good point here. "Tone" is an inherent point of the argument being made, in that the argument is basically "Stop being bad white cis males and be a good little ally." There is an accusation implicit in the argument and therefore it's nearly impossible to rebut it without tone policing...
I don't know if the problem is so much the "bludgeoning" but the selective judgment in the theory in the first place. It's another manifestation of Tumblr Social Justice Theory: Life as anyone but a straight white cis male is fraught with microaggressions that need to be constantly called out...