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I didn't know you've had experience with MY mentorship or mentoring style. I thought we were talking about the concept of, not my personal style. I do? Where did I say that? You seem very good at telling me things I've said that I don't seem to have said. If you don't think gatekeepers are...

If we're going to assume bad faith, then we have very little we can actually discuss or talk about. I would like to assume good faith on the part of the debaters, but if you believe I am lying, then nothing I can do will make any difference. So here I stand, I can do no else.

Then we seem to be in vehement agreement.

Oh! Another one: a man I was one of the groomsman for, let's call him Mike, asked me about joining my group once when we lived in Michigan. He seemed genuinely interested. We sat, we chatted, we talked about what actually goes on, and he admitted that he didn't really have an interest in being a...

Oh that's easy! My college gaming group almost fell apart when a woman, let's call her Heather, started dating one of my gamers. She wanted the join our group, and we had an opening, and she seemed like a great person. So we brought her in. Turns out, we were wrong. She confessed, quite...

I can assure you, I do. Is only part of the job in a traditional role of it in more than the D&D community. Indeed, seems gamers may have appropriated a term to mean something else. Oh? My gay gamers wouldn't exactly agree with that statement. The tests were certainly different, but no less...

Why? Only half the job (which should be an honored (EDIT: that is, one the person doing must treat with due decorum and respect, not respect from the community, burden is always on the welcomer) one with lots of responsibility on that person, in any community, not just D&D, to be the welcoming...

Why is mentoring in quotes?

Never did I ever mention "fake geek girls." Nor did I say the point of knowledge is... I said the function of a gatekeeper in an inclusive community was often to find who is not really a member and is pretending to be one, NOT to put down those who want to become members, who are learning to...

Amen! "Gatekeepers" forget that the original intent behind almost any group having that kind of knowledge is not to shame people who don't, but to be able to tell who is a poser TRYING TO FOOL YOU AND HARM YOUR GROUP (not gaming group, social group). It's not to shame people who are: 1)...

I would contend there are people I think need help with a topic who disagree with me (e.g. my children). I am assuming those folks need me. It's usually on me to know when its appropriate to insist on helping them and when it's better to step back, treat them as equals, or simply let them make...

So you'd rather no one be available to help anyone learn new things? Because that's something that can be directly inferred from this statement. "Welcome to your new endeavor... NOW FEND FOR YOURSELF!" Note this does mean I'm endorsing purity tests (I am most certainly not). I'm taking your...

You know, the funny thing is I've seen this happen at my local game store. Only it was being directed at other men. Seems the gender of the person the "gatekeeper" was checking didn't matter. He was just universally an ass to everyone. (The store owner eventually removed him.) Or, as my wife...

Hmm... OK then! It'll be a Psionics Handbook with a campaign setting focus of Solamnia only.

Easy mistake to make... as someone who lived in Wisconsin for many years though, I can tell you you do not want to mistake Wisconsin for Wisdom. The two stats... so far apart. ;)

I haven't run it yet or played in it, but it looks terribly awesome and I'm brainstorming the beginning of a campaign for it.

Ah-HA! I knew it! ...there's a prize for this, right?

I see you've never played a RPG before. B-)

Then we fundamentally disagree. I have no idea what this means. Yes, the ultimate check on the DM's power is the player's ability not to game. However, other than that, the DM has no limit on his or her power (or, put another way, the only limit on the DM's power is something that becomes...

I did notice. That's why I was calling the example hogwash. The DM absolutely is in a position that requires more trust than any given player. Precisely because you are not in competition with the DM and he or she is the only "player" who has the ability to not be bound by any rules and yet...