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You're thinking of it backwards. I am not saying that you can't smoke in your house. I'm saying I'm not going in your house if there is going to be smoking involved. Why is that a problem? Hard time? No harder than I did before I put in these rules, and a lot of problems are removed...

Well, I think it is. It leads to conflicts and arguments. This thread is a case in point. I'm sorry, I wasn't clear. This involves people who not only know each other, but this same group of people had much the same thing happen before. So please check your assumptions at the door...

If anybody is thinking that, then that's their problem because they are so completely misunderstanding my words that I am beyond my capacity to clarify it to them since I have explicitly said that I do not care what you do in your life that doesn't involve me being around. Do I really need to...

There are many places where eating is not allowed, so if a GM told me "Please no snacks in the game room" I'd accept that. I have some relatives who are like that already. Me, I'll eat on the couch or the bed, I haven't sat down to eat at the dinner table in a long while. I keep all my...

I guess you didn't recognize the analogy, as I wouldn't necessarily fear that. (Fred Flintstone did though! You should watch that cartoon!) I would, however, fear them getting counterfeit money. Perhaps a more common problem though, might be the issue of loaning money. If you've never seen...

Isn't it obvious? It is to me, but I guess I'll explain. I choose not to be around people who are drinking alcohol. This is taken as me forcing people to choose either not be around me, or don't drink and we'll play. Fair enough to me. There's no acrimony. Yet they think it's unfair for...

That's why I put my character creation rules in writing. And try to have some pre-gens around.

Not by a long shot! Yeah, I guess I should have clarified my original post in the first place. Oh well, I'll make sure to be clearer if it ever comes up again. Learned from the experience.

Indeed, at least there's general consensus on that. Unfortunately, for me, the question becomes then how to arbitrate what's acceptable or not? People have different ideas about what's enough, even for themselves. So there's another thing to argue about. I take the simpler route and avoid...

So, you'd expect us to deal with you wanting to take a break? No thanks! Even if it's a normal break (some groups do that, some don't), if it's my property, I've had enough trouble with smokers leaving their litter behind that I'm simply not going to deal with it any more. I do not want to...

I don't go to events where they will be consumption of alcohol by the persons involved. You want me to go to your birthday party? Don't hold it in a bar. (Well, unless you're renting the space and I know you're not going to be serving alcohol, there have been some cases where that has...

People have enough problems recognizing that, so I just take one of the potential trouplespots out of it. There are folks who can contribute to a game if they're not allowed to drink alcohol, and since I'd rather not argue over why another person might be allowed, or how much one person can...

As a group? They don't. As individuals they do. At least if I treat the group equally though, there's one less thing to argue about. I've said it before, this is based on experience. Heck, this thread alone should show you how people don't like their personal behavior being questioned...

Well, I'm not interested in doing that sort of thing in detail, as some people I've known are, but then, I'm not interested in food in detail, while there are people who love to have the taste and flavor expanded on in detail. Or who love to discuss their sartorial style, or get their...

I prefer not to be accused of favortism. Heck, even when it's two friends, it can be an issue. One says "You let X drink because you like X better than me" . Yeah, that's their fault for not recognizing their own individual issues but what can I do? Well, it may come to the point where I...

When has the D&D community, let alone the RPG community be a monolithic whole anyway? I'm pretty sure the first split happened back when Arneson first read this thing a guy put out about some war game.

It is unfortunate, but necessary, as I've found that dealing with it in individual terms just doesn't work. People get too upset and feel like they're being singled out. At best, they realize their error when they sober up, at worst, they refuse to admit it and leave the game. Either way, the...

Ah, you know what, I don't need that long post , I'll just say, your way of expressing my side of things is not entirely accurate, and that your way of doing things, it probably seems equally odd to me. You want to have people drinking at games? Fine, but dealing with it is a hassle I refuse...

Probably something to do with perceptions of them as learned, and ascetic, with a focus on discipline, which naturally carries over to mental disciplines. I think The Legend of Kung Fu may be responsible in part for that.

My decision came from experience. Hope that answers your question.