I feel I am learning as I read (figuring out why I disagree with someone helps me learn as much as figuring out why I agree with someone) but I often do not feel I am understood (which is as likely to be on my end as anyone else's). It's why I've been monitoring the thread but not chiming in for ... some number of pages.Humble, friendly suggestion.
If you don't feel like you're teaching, learning, or otherwise enjoying the exchanges, then something has to change (only you can know what that is - it would be unfortunate if that would mean avoiding our conversations...but if its grief all the way down then that is a reasonable course of action).
But my thought above was just a little anecdote-sniffing/data collection from you guys. Nothing more.