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Hero
This really isn't tough, guys.
Imagine a man named Bob. Bob likes his pies. Pies are an important part of Bob's life. One day, Bob notices a new pie listed on his favorite pie restaurant's menu: Boston Cream Pie. Bob has never had this pie before, and his curiosity compels him to order one.
When Bob is served his Boston Cream Pie, he is outraged. "This isn't pie!" he bellows, "It's missing some of the things I like about pies! It's way too much like a cake to be a real pie! It just doesn't feel like pie to me."
Bob's view of pies, as a concept, is very narrow. He has created a personal definition of what a pie is, and anything that falls outside that definition is not a pie as far as he is concerned. His definition of pie-hood is not open to revision; no matter how many thoroughly enjoyable desert pastries he samples, he will not expand his personal conception of the essential nature of a pie.
I appreciate your passionate defense of your own mindset, but let's not overextend ourselves, hmm? The creation of a rigid personal definition for what D&D is and isn't does not strike me as flexible.
It would be nice if we could put this particular flavor of gripe to bed. It's a silly one to begin with, and very nearly pointless when it comes to any sort of discussion ("I don't like 4e, it doesn't feel like D&D to me," doesn't explain your position any better than simply saying, "I don't like 4e," and tends to confuse things, because you're the only person who knows what your own personal definition of D&D looks like).
Your analogy is flawed.
How about this scenario? Bob goes to his favorite pie restaurant and orders a Boston cream pie. He gets something entirely unlike what he is used to, and rather than being one of the most delicious Boston cream pies he's ever had, that brought him back to Boston cream pie-eating after a decade long hiatus of eating only cherry pies and the occasional eclair, it is now a fairly serviceable example of a pie that departs so far from what he expected that it does not fulfill his Bostom cream pie craving.
In short, Bob is going to have to find a new pie restaurant. Fortunately, a local bakery that used to supply the filling, has decided to open their own restaurant and bake pies in the style he is used to.
I think it would be unkind to say Bob's view of a Boston cream pie is unreasonably narrow. He was perfectly content with the pie available to him; it was the pie maker who suddenly decided the pie was insufficient to fulfill its pastry destiny.