Sounds like you either had a good DM mentor along the way, or managed to figure out the proper nip/tucks to the system yourself in order to be a good DM.

Forums like these are awesome, but they are by their nature anomalies - from what I can tell, the vast majority of DMs out there in the 3e days didn’t have good mentors or role models to help, and didn’t know about places like ENWorld, RPGnet, Dragonsfoot, etc. to get advice from; it was also pre-twitter, pre-Facebook, pre-twitch, etc. and many just followed rules as written, even if it gave them a hard time to do so.