With respect, this feels like you are blaming the victims of flame arguments against Fate and those who were fans of it.With respect, debating rules, mechanics, and principles on the internet is not a good way to decide what the game actually is or does. Internet debate has a great many failings that get in the way of clear assessments.
Fate wound up with a PR problem, in that it is not a game that came out of The Forge community, but folks chose to describe it as if it were. A great many cognitive biases were set by the language used, and the focus given to some aspects of the game, rather than to how it actually plays in practice. Theory-oriented discussion continues that trend, while practice-based assessment can allow you to break free of that.