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<blockquote data-quote="Umbran" data-source="post: 7847042" data-attributes="member: 177">If you have gone to the point of putting someone on ignore, you have likely already proven that you don't get along well at all.&nbsp; Letting them know about it probably isn't going to end well, largely because nothing between you has been ending well.If someone feels entitled to a response from you, they probably already don't have a high opinion of you (see the fact that you don't get along), so the cold shoulder probably isn't going to really change anything.&nbsp; They'll probably eventually get that you don't respond to them, and wander off in search of someone who will engage.And, as for third parties... who does that?&nbsp; Who keeps a spreadsheet of who is and isn't responding to whom, and assigning character flaws based on it? That's some really obsessive, toxic stuff, there.&nbsp; If you find someone who does that, please let us know because someone needs to have a chat with them about pleasant conversations on websites...The general rule is that you don't announce it publicly, because it amounts to an ad hominem argument - &quot;You are personally so bad I will no longer listen to you... and neither should anyone else!&quot;If you really want to inform someone in private, by PM, you can try it. Maybe, sometimes, that'll end in a discussion about how they didn't realize how they came across to you, and that'd be helpful.&nbsp; But generally.. be prepared for it to be an angry rebuff.In the end, the ignore list isn't about changing their behavior.&nbsp; It is about controlling your own experience.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Umbran, post: 7847042, member: 177"] If you have gone to the point of putting someone on ignore, you have likely already proven that you don't get along well at all. Letting them know about it probably isn't going to end well, largely because [I]nothing[/I] between you has been ending well. If someone feels [I]entitled[/I] to a response from you, they probably already don't have a high opinion of you (see the fact that you don't get along), so the cold shoulder probably isn't going to really change anything. They'll probably eventually get that you don't respond to them, and wander off in search of someone who will engage. And, as for third parties... who does that? Who keeps a spreadsheet of who is and isn't responding to whom, and assigning character flaws based on it? That's some really obsessive, toxic stuff, there. If you find someone who does that, please let us know because someone needs to have a chat with them about pleasant conversations on websites... The general rule is that you don't announce it publicly, because it amounts to an [i]ad hominem[/i] argument - "You are personally so bad I will no longer listen to you... and neither should anyone else!" If you really want to inform someone in private, by PM, you can try it. Maybe, sometimes, that'll end in a discussion about how they didn't realize how they came across to you, and that'd be helpful. But generally.. be prepared for it to be an angry rebuff. In the end, the ignore list isn't about changing their behavior. It is about controlling your own experience. [/QUOTE]

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