OK, thanks for the feedback; I'm still trying to get a handle on 4E Paladins, so all feedback is useful.
You might want to ditch the whole thing and try playing a fighter instead. It would address many of your issues.
Well, truly, I've given it some thought over the last couple sessions. ;-)
But if a character switch is a good idea, my question there is: "is a STR Paladin a just a weaker/harder class than the Fighter?" (Is the Paladin the Monk/Bard of 4E?) Or is it that the Fighter might fit my play-style better? (Honestly, the character I am envious of is the Cleric-Ranger hybrid who can heal like crazy and always seems to have lots of options to help the party. The Paladin seems kind of limited compared to him.)
In addition, I have a few things...
These are the things I have been wondering also; whether I made mistakes in those particular choices. (Except Javelins, which I have but did not bother to list. Yay +STR throwing weapons!).
The point of the Long Spear and the Fast Runner was to try to offset the Dwarven 5 base speed. I cannot tank if my strikers keep outrunning me. But this mobility comes at a price; no +3 prof weapon, and a feat which could have been spent on Toughness or Weapon Proficiency.
I wondered if anyone would comment on having 31 HPs; and the syngergy with Toughness. But it seems people are looking at my low attack bonus as a primary problem; I'll take a look at what I can do to improve that; either by re-adjusting my stats (but what stat to sacrifice?!) or by getting a Weapon Profiency type feat.