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Message: <blockquote data-quote="DMZ2112" data-source="post: 8936284" data-attributes="member: 78752">It's hard to really make a judgment call about the situation based on what you've described of your perspective of the situation -- I think there are a lot of unknowns here, not the least of which is the nature of Edward's relationship with the other players outside of the game, which you acknowledge you'd have no way of knowing.  Reading between the lines, it sounds to me like there is some degree of bullying going on; if Edward's reactions are really as dramatic as you claim, why would anyone continue to bait him other than for the purposes of getting a rise?In light of that, I think the easiest solution would just be to retcon the spectacles into an item with identical function that doesn't set Edward off.  Why beg the consequence?We've all got hangups about one thing or another.  I remember being not much younger than Edward and feeling forced to play in a group that insisted on characterizing my character in a certain way that I found distasteful, if I wanted to get in any play time at all.  To a greater or lesser extent, we're all at the table to pretend we are someone else, and having that projection undermined isn't fun.I may not understand why Edward hates glasses so much, but it isn't challenging for me to extrapolate his dissatisfaction to any number of characterizations that we might better understand as negative, and it doesn't require him to be neurodivergent or even unreasonable.I wonder often what has happened to some people to make them so devoid of empathy.</blockquote>

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