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Message: <blockquote data-quote="J.Quondam" data-source="post: 8936966" data-attributes="member: 7030100">Assuming the DM came on board solely as a DM (ie, not parent, teacher, therapist, etc), and assuming the DM has no knowledge that any player has special needs, etc, then this is not really the DM's problem, imo. I don't see any need to deal with it in any special way other than how I'd normally deal with something like this.Talk to the player (of the PC with the glasses) offline, something along the lines of, "This spectacle item has led to disruptions a few times. Would these disruptions end if we retcon the item into a hat or gloves or something?" If the player agrees, and the others agree never to mention it again, then great, problem solved! Otoh, if any player is belligerent about the attempt to correct the issue (or if any player brings it up again after agreeing not to) then I'd say, "Sorry, I'm not a good fit for this group" and respectfully bow out of the game.See, in the absence of any other explicit expectations, my job as a DM is simply to moderate the game and keep the table running smoothly in a way that's enjoyable for everyone-- myself included. My job is NOT to make uninformed guesses about the roots of other adult players' personality issues. If they don't/can't abide by the table social contract, don't utilize our agreed safety tools, or don't respond to my attempts to manage the table, then it's best if I just bow out.</blockquote>