Cheating cheaters

[Obryn]

Meta-gaming of the most heinous variety!

Why, it's almost meta-cheating!!!

, -- N

hah!

Well, her friend might and her friend might have said something. I have no idea.

-O

 

[Janx]

The OP said they wanted to minimize drama. Minimizing bad feelings will minimize the drama. If you start "punishing" the cheater (or make her feel like she's being punished) and singling her out then that could start a series of events where the cheater tries to get back at the punishers in some way, who retaliate on their own, etc. These might not be major things, but it will certainly increase the drama and tension in the group.

Less bad feelings all around = less drama = happier group as a whole.

The rest of my post where you found fault addresses this. I don't advocate punishing her. I advocate that she should feel bad on her own, because she was bad. If she doesn't, she's a sociopath who doesn't think she's doing wrong.

 

[Arnwyn]

It's called shame. A correctly wired human feels it when they know they did wrong, even if nobody catches them or calls them on it.

Someone who does wrong should feel bad.

I'm surprised that this even needs to be said!

 

[Merkuri]

I don't advocate punishing her. I advocate that she should feel bad on her own, because she was bad.

I don't want to argue much further about this because it's going a bit off topic, and I suspect our arguments will be mostly about semantics, but I'll say this last bit...

Yes, she should feel bad because she's cheating. But if you increase her bad feelings by doing something she may see as punishment (not saying that's your intent, just that it might be how she sees it) it's not doing anyone any good.

She already knows cheating is bad. She knows she shouldn't do it, but it's probably too tempting for her because it's easy. If the choice is between two methods that make it harder for her to cheat but one really makes her feel a lot worse about herself and the other only makes her feel a little worse about herself in my opinion the one that makes her feel less bad is the preferrable one if your goal is to correct the behavior with the minumum of drama.

Less bad feelings = less drama. That's all I was trying to say. Whether she feels bad on her own isn't really relevant to my point, and I agree that she probably is already feeling guilty about cheating, and that's a good thing.

 

[Nifft]

Well, her friend might and her friend might have said something. I have no idea.

Whatever the specifics are, if it were me, I'd be happy enough if it just never happened again.

Cheers, -- N

 

[Old Gumphrey]

I'm surprised that this even needs to be said!

I'm surprised 75% of the things said in this thread need to be said. Cheating isn't a play style.

 

[Rel]

I feel incredibly bad for not having had the presence of mind to ask this before and I'm also rather disappointed in the rest of the folks participating in this thread for not bringing it up either. So let me make sure that we go not an instant longer without this bit of crucial information:

Is she hot?

 

[Merkuri]

So let me make sure that we go not an instant longer without this bit of crucial information:

Is she hot?

*sigh* Where are the moderators when you need them?

Oh... wait... oops..

 

[cougent]

I feel incredibly bad for not having had the presence of mind to ask this before and I'm also rather disappointed in the rest of the folks participating in this thread for not bringing it up either. So let me make sure that we go not an instant longer without this bit of crucial information:

Is she hot?

Rel is my hero!

 

[Rel]

Rel is my hero!

I'm afraid this may not speak well of you.

Rel "not a role model" Ooi