I don't have any courtly love to speak of in my campaign as the foundation of a rich but seeminly powerless wife is pretty much non existent. There are feudal kingdoms but not only are they the minority,magic has changed them profoundly from even the romatic ideals of them
There is an old saying on Midrea, my game world that goes "all women are witches" and especially among the nobles its pretty much true. Any reasonably capable noble women is likely to be a wizard, a witch or a cleric of some kind -- she has time and resources and its pretty likely she'll use them. A typical Noble might be Courtier 2 Wiz 2 -- as she gains in experience it will be maybe Cou4 Wiz 4 and in her later years Cou 4 Wiz 4 Cloistred Cleric 4 Men rarely put capable women on a pedestal. Even average people can manage a few cantrips -- and of course some people have inate magic too
Also its regarded as crude be feasible to fix infatuations with magic. If someone appears to be getting obsessive or bardic about some rich persons wife ran what happen is said party ends up "magically corrected" with a Major Geas spell
There is an old saying on Midrea, my game world that goes "all women are witches" and especially among the nobles its pretty much true. Any reasonably capable noble women is likely to be a wizard, a witch or a cleric of some kind -- she has time and resources and its pretty likely she'll use them. A typical Noble might be Courtier 2 Wiz 2 -- as she gains in experience it will be maybe Cou4 Wiz 4 and in her later years Cou 4 Wiz 4 Cloistred Cleric 4 Men rarely put capable women on a pedestal. Even average people can manage a few cantrips -- and of course some people have inate magic too
Also its regarded as crude be feasible to fix infatuations with magic. If someone appears to be getting obsessive or bardic about some rich persons wife ran what happen is said party ends up "magically corrected" with a Major Geas spell