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<blockquote data-quote="Umbran" data-source="post: 4445034" data-attributes="member: 177">I have some experience with such players.&nbsp; How much you can do depends very much on the source of her problem.&nbsp; If it is physiological, there may be little you can do.&nbsp; If it is a learned behavior, there can be a lot you can do to help.First point - as you've probably already guessed, forcing the issue too much doesn't help.&nbsp; It tends to drive an anxious person more deeply into their anxiety.Second point - the rest of the group kind of has to be on board and understanding.&nbsp; Many folk who don't understand social anxiety can interpret it as &quot;being a drama queen&quot; or &quot;just looking for attention&quot;, and that's exactly the sort of thing she's going to fear.&nbsp; If the group can be understanding, you've got a chance to make a go of it.&nbsp; If people are going to trivialize it, or dismiss it, then there's gong to be rough spots.If your group is the sort that jokes around by insulting each other, it must be made clear that this is probably inappropriate with her.&nbsp; I only know a couple of people who can make it abundantly clear that they mock because they like you, most folks come off as mean to someone with anxiety.In general, the better she knows the rest of the players, the less impact anxiety will have.&nbsp; If you can afford the time, having smaller side sessions with her and one or two other players can help, as it is often easier to face an individual than a group.Idea - the use of notes.&nbsp; Allow her to occasionally pass you some of her actions as notes, rather than speaking them in front of the group. A bit slow, but she can probably jot notes while others are describing her own actions.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Umbran, post: 4445034, member: 177"] I have some experience with such players. How much you can do depends very much on the source of her problem. If it is physiological, there may be little you can do. If it is a learned behavior, there can be a lot you can do to help. First point - as you've probably already guessed, forcing the issue too much doesn't help. It tends to drive an anxious person more deeply into their anxiety. Second point - the rest of the group kind of has to be on board and understanding. Many folk who don't understand social anxiety can interpret it as "being a drama queen" or "just looking for attention", and that's exactly the sort of thing she's going to fear. If the group can be understanding, you've got a chance to make a go of it. If people are going to trivialize it, or dismiss it, then there's gong to be rough spots. If your group is the sort that jokes around by insulting each other, it must be made clear that this is probably inappropriate with her. I only know a couple of people who can make it abundantly clear that they mock because they like you, most folks come off as mean to someone with anxiety. In general, the better she knows the rest of the players, the less impact anxiety will have. If you can afford the time, having smaller side sessions with her and one or two other players can help, as it is often easier to face an individual than a group. Idea - the use of notes. Allow her to occasionally pass you some of her actions as notes, rather than speaking them in front of the group. A bit slow, but she can probably jot notes while others are describing her own actions. [/QUOTE]

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