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Message: <blockquote data-quote="danzig138" data-source="post: 2468234" data-attributes="member: 3595">I'm going to reply to this before I read anyone else's response, so bear with me if I repeat anything (Disclaimer below*). Near as I can tell, when dealing with people like this, you have three basic choices: 1. Take it. Don't bring it up, don't confront or talk to them about it, just take it. This is a bad choie IMO. I think if you just sit and take it, it will eventually eat you up inside. Especially if it comes from more than one person. 2. Minimize or end contact. Either gradually or abruptly minimize or even completely end your contact with the offending person. You have to deal with less of the grief, but things are never resolved. I think this choice is only slightly better than number 1. 3. Confront them. Now, you can do this politely or not. Say "Look, I don't know if you know it, but the things you say, and the way you talk to me hurt alot. It makes me want to not be around you or deal with you. I'd like to have a good relationship with you, but I'm not here for your amusment, or for you to belittle. I deserve your respect, and I'd like to make this work, but you're going to have to work at it also. It can't just be me caving to you." This is the best choice IMO. I firmly believe that if you have a problem with someone, and it doesn't matter if it's friends, coworkers, or family (who, for some reason, some people think you should just "accept" as they are), you need to at the very least, bring it into the light. Now, sometimes, trying to be rational isn't going to work with some people. Why? Because some people just suck. If, after you try to talk to them about it, they just aren't willing to work with you, then you need to say "@#!! it then, I'm done." And cut them out. Period. Some people are just toxic, and you don't need that. It's unhealthy for you mentally (and I imagine that easily becomes a physical issue as well). And it doesn't matter their relationship to you. You need to figure out if having the person in your life has more benefits for you than negatives. If not, drop em. You'll be better off in the long run. *I am not a doctor or any type of mental health or relationship professional. But I have known people in my life who were bad for me mentally. So the above comes from personal experience only.</blockquote>

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