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<blockquote data-quote="Elf Witch" data-source="post: 5644031" data-attributes="member: 9037"><p>The DM was on the phone with one of the players trying to work this out. She decided to handle it privately instead of at the table. </p><p></p><p>When she got off the phone she was literally in tears from frustration.</p><p></p><p>She explained the issue and wanted to know what she could do to facilitate fixing it. Like reassuring him she was not a killer DM. He got angry over that accusing her of putting words in his mouth and that she had no right to assume that he thought any such thing. So she spent a great while trying to smooth that over.</p><p></p><p>The issue seems to be that he is role player with a capital R and that in his mind he assumes that the world is more like a real world where you often face things that you can't handle. It is one of the flaws of a level based game. Sometimes you just have to metagame a little an accept that this is a game and that one of the constraints is balanced CR threats. </p><p></p><p>He pointed out that though we are tenth level in game time we have been adventuring four months and he says his character does not have that much experience to realize he no longer as weak as he was four months ago. From a role playing point that makes sense but it makes it hard to play the game. I don't know how to fix this aspect of it. </p><p></p><p>He is used to playing in homebrew games where the world is more organic and there are things you are meant to run from. In an adventure path everything is calculated per level so you don't face threats to hard to handle or over your pay grade. </p><p></p><p>To him metagaming is a dirty word. And I think he is having issues playing a way that seems very foreign to him.</p><p></p><p>This DM is a newbie which is why she choose an adventure path to run. She does add things to make it more personal and he says he is having fun and didn't realize there was an issue. </p><p></p><p>Right now he is overreacting and is thinking he and the other player are being blamed and called bad players. His feeling are hurt. I am hoping that when he calms down he sees that is not what she was saying to him at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elf Witch, post: 5644031, member: 9037"] The DM was on the phone with one of the players trying to work this out. She decided to handle it privately instead of at the table. When she got off the phone she was literally in tears from frustration. She explained the issue and wanted to know what she could do to facilitate fixing it. Like reassuring him she was not a killer DM. He got angry over that accusing her of putting words in his mouth and that she had no right to assume that he thought any such thing. So she spent a great while trying to smooth that over. The issue seems to be that he is role player with a capital R and that in his mind he assumes that the world is more like a real world where you often face things that you can't handle. It is one of the flaws of a level based game. Sometimes you just have to metagame a little an accept that this is a game and that one of the constraints is balanced CR threats. He pointed out that though we are tenth level in game time we have been adventuring four months and he says his character does not have that much experience to realize he no longer as weak as he was four months ago. From a role playing point that makes sense but it makes it hard to play the game. I don't know how to fix this aspect of it. He is used to playing in homebrew games where the world is more organic and there are things you are meant to run from. In an adventure path everything is calculated per level so you don't face threats to hard to handle or over your pay grade. To him metagaming is a dirty word. And I think he is having issues playing a way that seems very foreign to him. This DM is a newbie which is why she choose an adventure path to run. She does add things to make it more personal and he says he is having fun and didn't realize there was an issue. Right now he is overreacting and is thinking he and the other player are being blamed and called bad players. His feeling are hurt. I am hoping that when he calms down he sees that is not what she was saying to him at all. [/QUOTE]
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