GQuail said:Look at it this way: when you're on the message board, you're talking to your customers. Even when you're having your lunch, or it's the weekend and you're at your parents, or you're on holiday in France, any time you appear on this message board as a games designer, you still are talking to the people who buy things from you.
I know that RPGs are a small hobby, and everyone who designs started out as a player and all that: and yes, plenty of people will disagree with you for stupid reasons, and you can't stop that. But you do have to conduct yourself like you would do any time you spoke to customers: civilly, with respect and patience where possible.
Well, that's very possible: for one thing, lots of jokes don't work written down that do spoken, so a message board post in jest may not come across as such. But since the only way I have of gauging people on ENWorld is through their posts, I don't feel that it's unfair to expect them to write with that in mind. (I know I've stopped or edited posts that, when I read them, risked coming across the wrong way once because they didn't sound so cool outside my head.)
The thing is, it's not just etiquette, but opinion which angers people. As a writer and a player I'm interested in making the game better... but (as we discussed in a recent thread) any mention of any kind of reform (or even the concept of the next version) can be a lightning rod for anger and hatred, whether you are as diplmatic as ghandi or an opinionated jerk like me

I mean, a lot of us get into writing because we love the hobby and want it to work and reach it's full potential. Want to do things like, change the negative image of table top gamers for example, or get more girls involved, or broaden the appeal of the game.
We certainly aren't in it for the money.
But if you are literally threatened with boycott every time you voice an opinion, man, thats stifling. And you have to say, no wonder the industry is the way it is and has the problems it has. I never fail to be amazed how reactionary many D&D players are. (By reactionary I mean reacting to something negatively without even really thinking about it just because it's different or new...)
BD.