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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Kahuna Burger" data-source="post: 1370348" data-attributes="member: 8439">I think situations like this can easily become self perpetuating. The Golden Child in one of my former D&D groups did pretty much all the roleplaying and was the highest level and most powerful members of the group. Any questioning of either facet of the situation was responded to by saying that Golden Child had earned it by always showing up and contributing so much. But as I observed things it became obvious that the others were capable of roleplaying more but GC and the DM had gotten so used to the default that there weren't really opertunities anymore, and in terms of commitment and showing up... GC had things come up as often as anyone else in the group that would caused a missed session - but when it did it was "lets do a different day/time/venue to make sure GC is there," instead of the "see you next week" that everyone else got when there was a scheduling conflict. (this is why I am always skeptical of groups that reward good attendance by not giving xp to those who skip - once a character becomes a bit more powerful, or a player has a reputation as dependable, it can easily turn into a possitive feedback loop of "he deserves a more powerful character because he shows up" building off "you don't want to face this without the more powerful character so lets make sure he can show up".)in practical terms its often hard for a group to dispassionatly look at its own dynamic, and in particular, the DM and GC will not want to consider the idea that they're behavior is in any way unfair... so don't talk about fairness.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f61b.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":p" title="Stick out tongue    :p"  data-smilie="7"data-shortname=":p" />  No seriously, whatever you do, don't bring the idea of fairness into it, because they will find a way of spinning the situation (not in an evil way, just the way they will see it) that is perfectly fair from certain assumptions. so just talk about fun, and what can be done to have the entire group have more fun while not reducing the fun of the GC. In some way, it can be claimed that the GC does deserve the possition, because of senority, or better charisma (real life, not game terms) or a marginally better backstory of those presented 4 years ago from the orriginal bunch or something... So don't make it about deserving or fairness - that line of inquiry leads only to pain.  <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f641.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":(" title="Frown    :("  data-smilie="3"data-shortname=":(" /> Kahuna Burger</blockquote>

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