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<blockquote data-quote="Magi_Trelian" data-source="post: 3380775" data-attributes="member: 36591">John, we wish you the best of luck, always!Much of what you're experiencing comes from the normal stress of this time of your life. And some of it also comes from maybe too high expectations of other players, not allowing for the normal stresses of their lives, and trying to follow their expectations of you when it's not a path down which you want to go.&nbsp; People often tend to project too much of themselves into their characters and when that char isn't accepted, they feel hurt.&nbsp; There's also the usual confusions of RPing without a DM which can lead to out-of-character accusations of betrayal and general anger and upsetment.&nbsp; I'm very sorry that these seem to have happened to you.To address your advice to other players:There are in-character relationships in ISRP that have gone on for several years, though usually it takes experienced players to handle it since there becomes the problem of &quot;what to do&quot; with the chars to keep the storyline interesting.&nbsp; Often such relationships take several months to be established to help give the chars some common history and to make sure both the chars and the players work well together, and even so these can disintegrate when one of the two players leaves the site.&nbsp; But in general, figure that any two chars that &quot;fall in love&quot; the same day or week they meet, will split up within the month.&nbsp; (Oddly enough, this applies to real life, too. ;-))Similarly, talking to others OOC can be a great way to get a trusting working relationship with other players and help you understand their character's motivations and where they intend to go with that char.&nbsp; It can also lead to actual friendships.&nbsp; But as in any group of people, it can also lead to problems when people don't reciprocate friendship on the same level.&nbsp; If this is happening, it's best to keep the OOC conversations to the characters and storyline and avoid the personal.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Magi_Trelian, post: 3380775, member: 36591"] John, we wish you the best of luck, always! Much of what you're experiencing comes from the normal stress of this time of your life. And some of it also comes from maybe too high expectations of other players, not allowing for the normal stresses of their lives, and trying to follow their expectations of you when it's not a path down which you want to go. People often tend to project too much of themselves into their characters and when that char isn't accepted, they feel hurt. There's also the usual confusions of RPing without a DM which can lead to out-of-character accusations of betrayal and general anger and upsetment. I'm very sorry that these seem to have happened to you. To address your advice to other players: There are in-character relationships in ISRP that have gone on for several years, though usually it takes experienced players to handle it since there becomes the problem of "what to do" with the chars to keep the storyline interesting. Often such relationships take several months to be established to help give the chars some common history and to make sure both the chars and the players work well together, and even so these can disintegrate when one of the two players leaves the site. But in general, figure that any two chars that "fall in love" the same day or week they meet, will split up within the month. (Oddly enough, this applies to real life, too. ;-)) Similarly, talking to others OOC can be a great way to get a trusting working relationship with other players and help you understand their character's motivations and where they intend to go with that char. It can also lead to actual friendships. But as in any group of people, it can also lead to problems when people don't reciprocate friendship on the same level. If this is happening, it's best to keep the OOC conversations to the characters and storyline and avoid the personal. [/QUOTE]

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