Please...
...call us women! It sounds less clinical and also that you are also talking to the same species.
Anyway, I've only had a smattering of experience with Tolkein and I have the first Wheel of Time book that I plan to check out after buying the RPG.
As to what I read...I have a shelf full of SF & Fantasy...do you want it all?
Let's do authors: Mercedes Lackey, Rosemary Edghill, Nancy Kress, Marrion Zimmer Bradley, Laurie King, Roger Zelazny, Peirs Anthony, Robin McKinnley, Joan D. Vinge, Harry Harrison, Anne Rice, Melanie Rawn, Greg Bear, Larry Niven, Neil Gaimen, Douglas Adams.
Those authors are taken from books I still own and treasure. I've unloaded lots of other books at the local used book store, too.
But I'm not what you'd call a fan reader. I pick up what looks interesting. I don't follow everything an author releases, except partially for Laurie King (who writes decidedly non-fantasy mystery books and one terrific series which features Sherlock Holmes). I'm open minded and will try anything that sounds good or comes highly recommended.
Lesse ... LotRs. I loved the opening battle sequence, loved Arwen riding across the country with Frodo, loved Gandolf trapped on the very top of the tower, loved the battle scene with the rock troll in Moria, loved Galadriel and the elves, loved the scene of Samwise almost drowning as he doggedly goes after Frodo, loved where Bilbo really did transform into a horrible, clutching creature when he spied the ring on Frodo's necklace, and the sound the horses of the RingWraiths as they chased the hobbits through the Shire.
Favorite fantasy movies...Labyrinth, Ever After, Braveheart, Conan, LotR ... though, quite honestly I tend to prefer Sci-Fi movies over Fantasy ones...so few fantasy, so badly done...
I think women gamers like what they like, just like male gamers do. I really don't think they would have entered the hobby if they didn't already see something appealing that called to them. And I think that the number of women who do game is directly related to the number that get into sci-fi and fantasy fandom (to whatever degree). Get them there, and you have a great in to pull them in the rest of the way.
Ashtal