OK I am a 35 year old gamer. I can't seem to find some other adults to play with. I know lots of students that I could game with but I am a professor at their University so that is kind of a conflict of interest. I have put up a flyer at a local game shop but no dice. Anyone have other ideas
Finding a group
- Thread starter bolen
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Gamers Seeking Gamers forum here on EN World:
http://www.enworld.org/forumdisplay.php?f=49
RPG Gamer Classifieds over on the WotC board:
http://boards1.wizards.com/forumdisplay.php?f=347
http://www.enworld.org/forumdisplay.php?f=49
RPG Gamer Classifieds over on the WotC board:
http://boards1.wizards.com/forumdisplay.php?f=347
bento
Explorer
Why is it a conflict of interest? There's lots of gamers that keep it "strictly professional" at the table.bolen said:
The reason I ask is I was a game club sponsor at a university I used to work at, but was the library director at the time, not a faculty member. I think a faculty member took it on when I left. We were introducing a GSP program, so gaming was a hot comodity. We played pen-and-paper RPGs to introducing gaming concepts (at least that's what we told the dean over the GSP program.
BTW, what are you interested in playing? It's sometimes difficult to get any game going outside of D&D or V:TM. You might have to play what everyone else is interested until you find a group that is willing to stretch out into something different.
bento said:Why is it a conflict of interest? There's lots of gamers that keep it "strictly professional" at the table.
The reason I ask is I was a game club sponsor at a university I used to work at, but was the library director at the time, not a faculty member. I think a faculty member took it on when I left. We were introducing a GSP program, so gaming was a hot comodity. We played pen-and-paper RPGs to introducing gaming concepts (at least that's what we told the dean over the GSP program.
I always think I should be friendly with students but not their friend. If you cross that line it is awfully hard to come back. This is not true with Graduate Students (they are basically adults) But undergrads sometimes have difficulty with the idea that they can be my friend at the table but my class is a different matter.
I think it a bit easier if you know you will never control a grade for the student.
pogre
Legend
Totally understand your view on playing with students - I agree.
Ask around at the local gaming shop if there is a local web message board or two. That's the way I have hooked up with my last couple of players. Get on the local message boards and just put up a "looking for a game" ad.
Don't be afraid to try several groups it can take a while to find your fit.
Ask around at the local gaming shop if there is a local web message board or two. That's the way I have hooked up with my last couple of players. Get on the local message boards and just put up a "looking for a game" ad.
Don't be afraid to try several groups it can take a while to find your fit.
Calico_Jack73
First Post
bolen said:
I don't think it is as difficult as you say. When I was in the USAF I had several troops that I rated on (supervised, trained, wrote performance reports) who played with me. I made sure that up front they understood the situation... we are just there to play, at work it is business as usual. At work I made sure that all my troops, gamers and non-gamers, knew there was an open invitation to play to eliminate the perception of favoritism. If anything I was a bit more critical of the work of my gaming troops just to make sure they understood that being in my gaming group didn't mean they were going to get any slack at work.
One thing that helped keep it professional was that I never allowed them to call me by first name. Even at the gaming table if they needed to get my attention it was still "Sergeant Wells". If you tried playing with your students I'd suggest insisting on them calling you Prof. ________ or whatever they call you in class.
Merkuri
Explorer
You could try posting in the Gamers Seeking Gamers forum. You'd probably be surprised about how many EN Worlders live in your area. Once you post up a thread saying basically what you said here (adults-only, no students), link to it in your signature.
If you decide finding a real-life game is too hard you can try online games. I play with a bunch of people I've never met over OpenRPG every week. I've never actually had a good live group so I can't say how it compares with the "real thing", but it's good enough for me.
If you decide finding a real-life game is too hard you can try online games. I play with a bunch of people I've never met over OpenRPG every week. I've never actually had a good live group so I can't say how it compares with the "real thing", but it's good enough for me.
Calico_Jack73
First Post
Darklone said:
How do you figure?
In both cases you are usually dealing with people from 18 to 22.
In both cases the senior person has some form of "power" over the other person. Whether it be grades or enlisted performance reports the senior person has the ability to make life easy for the junior person or screw them over.
In both cases the senior and junior people should be mature enough to see the distinction between being "friends" and playing a game with someone.
I wouldn't call the people in my gaming group friends because outside of gaming we don't hang out together or do anything non-gaming. IMX, I guard my usage of the word a little more than the average person.
