I like to think of it as this: The fact that some people do not have a problem does not mean that a problem does not exist for other people. If a problem exists for some people, the problem exists.
Except the problem may not be what you think it is. Imagine you complain about being hot, so you turn down the thermostat. Now I'm cold.
Why?
Perhaps one of us is wearing a parka and the other in his skivies. Perhaps one of is a walrus, and the other a tortoise. Ok, so the former is a little more likely.

The alternative is telling people that they are the problem or telling people that something is wrong with them, and that's being more than a little presumptuous.
Except that's not what I'm saying. I'm saying it's not wrong to have another preference, that people can differ. And if you think I'm saying that somebody is wrong in a sense of "bad wrong" as opposed to the "humans are imperfect and often have conflicts over things that amount to simple differences of perspective or preference" which is what I'm going for, then I'm sorry, but the former is not what I'm expressing at all. It's the latter.
You, to me, though, seem more like you're arguing to former, because saying that the problem is the Realms, and ignoring the conflict arising from people appears to itself be presumptuous, because you are saying that one person can be wrong for having another preference than yours. Because obviously liking something that's flawed is bad, isn't it?
Now perhaps you don't mean things that way, but it's how it is perceived.
Can't we just say some people like going along with canon, and that they're welcome to do so, without implying it's the fault of the Realms for encouraging that?
see here is the problem with the 'human nature argument"...
If the canon lawayers in my group where a problem all the time I would agree, but lets take them 1 at a time
And there's an unfounded conjecture, which if you look up further in the thread, I already talked about. Let me see where it was...I know I mentioned the Dalelands....so...post 254.
Perhaps I was a little oblique there, but I know what I was thinking at the time, that people's preferences to canon may not be monolithic. (I think I mentioned this elsewhere, but I'm not sure enough of what words I used to bother looking, and I think this shows I did give consideration to the idea already.)
What's the point? People are often inconsistent. Their buttons can be pushed with one thing, or another. Go figure. I know folks who will critique every lame storyline in Professional Wrestling, but won't even notice when similar versions come up in their favorite Soap Operas. I know medical personnel who complain about authenticity on one medical show, but not another. I know some who complain about them all.
now I know I am not alone in saying when a common thread is the setting, human nature has got a bit of an albi
Could be pure coincidence. It happens. Cum hoc ergo propter hoc is still a fallacy.
Honestly, I think we're back where we were a few days ago, with me suggesting that you go looking for some other examples. There's actually an interesting story on Slashdot right now featuring City of Heroes which may be illuminating.