G&G: Gamers and Girlfriends.

[Frostmarrow]

I still don't get why you could'nt tell me about gaming. One of my favourite things about you is your geek factor and I love listening about all things DnD.
You have failed to inform the world of gamers that I have sharpened up my rule knoweledge and want to play a druid as I now know I could'nt play a solar :/
This girlfriend catches on quick

Druid huh? -They are teh sux!!!111!

Just kidding. Druid was also my wife's pick when we made a character for her, as I was explaining the game to her. She doesn't play but she helps me out designing adventures.

 

[Ralif Redhammer]

That's a very awesome story. Very happy.

I've never hid my gaming, but it's not something I'd bring up on a first date.

An old girlfriend of mine once asked to watch our gaming night. Unfortunately, it ended up being one of those nights were things just don't click. None of our brains were sparking, so she ended up seeing one of the dullest, worst gaming sessions. Needless to say, that was the end of her interest in just what goes on at gaming night.

 

[Scratched_back]

An old girlfriend of mine once asked to watch our gaming night. Unfortunately, it ended up being one of those nights were things just don't click. None of our brains were sparking, so she ended up seeing one of the dullest, worst gaming sessions. Needless to say, that was the end of her interest in just what goes on at gaming night.

My group is pretty roleplaying intensive too, and a lot of the guys I know for a fact would clam up if a woman was present.

MY DM is an absolute legend, does voices, mimes, expressions, sound effects, practically anything, and I don't think it'd phase him if the playboy models were sat watching, but all of the other players (myself included) would be constantly conscious of themselves under watch... one of those things that just can't be explained...

 

[ForceUser]

I introduced myself to my ex because she went walking by my home with arms full of D&D books, paints, and minis. That's how we met.

 

[Henry]

It could indeed be that they feel uncomfortable with such a setup - you wouldn't know until they tried. Past that, if it wouldn't work, there's always other groups, online gaming such as the play-by-post message boards here, etc.

If you are both from the U.K. there are lots of active groups out there that may be nearby - it's worth checking around, posting to the Gamers seeking Gamers forums here, as well as other forums.

 

[Desdichado]

I have sharpened up my rule knoweledge and want to play a druid as I now know I could'nt play a solar :/
This girlfriend catches on quick

Solar to druid? I'm not seeing the connection. Anyway, I've never much like the druids; druids got the shaft.

...

And no, it'd be nice if you're boyfriend doesn't pop in and make the obvious joke there.

 

[twofalls]

Well, my experience isn't hiding gaming from girlfriends, I've been married since I was nineteen and my wife knew I was a gamer the day we started dating at 16. In spite of that knowledge we’ve been married for 16 years and I couldn’t be more in love. But goodness do have a lot of funny stories to tell about her and gamers. You see I'm a rather lucky fellow in that Katy is gorgeous... by anyone's standard. She gets flirted with all the time, has been asked out more times than I can even begin to count, and even by men who already knows she's married (which just pisses her off to no end). I’m not Mr, Attractive so I guess these guys think that she is available because we don’t seem to match when you look at us casually.

I've run a lot of games over the years, and nearly always at my house as I have always had a game room of one kind or another. I've run the same group of fellows for just over eight years so they are all quite used to Katy being around now. She is very friendly and has a talent for making people feel comfortable, unfortunately some guys think this means that she has taken a shine to them, when in fact its just her lovely nature.

One fellah, a friend of a friend who was allowed to game with us once, when introduced to her turned red in the face and just stood there for an odd moment or two. Then he blurted out "Hi Pookie"! Katy looked at him like he was insane (which he might temporarily have been) and he wasn't invited back after that.

Another fellow kept telling me for days what excellent massages he gave after Katy was overheard by the group telling me that what she needed was a deep shoulder rub.

Another guy who I thought was a friend went so far as to proposition both of us for a threesome after a game meeting... he was disposed of immediately (the police never have found the body).

But many of the gamers that have come and gone over the years just become deathly quiet when she comes into the room to say hi to me or sits on my lap. It's like a friendly pretty girl is death to role playing. One guy had it so bad that he turned red as an apple every time Katy entered the room. I felt so bad that I asked her to not sit on my lap when he was about (she and I have always been physically affectionate but try not to embarrass other folk).

I'm very happy to say that all my current gamers are very comfortable around her and many of them even go camping with us with their own families at SCA events now. But the things I mentioned here are just the tip of the iceberg of the things that have happened over the years... oh boy!

 

[Wraith Form]

(Has anybody else been where I've been here? Tell me YOUR outrageous excuses!)

Excuse? Er, maybe...I say that I have "essentially a poker night with the guys" (knowing that she doesn't want to join).

That's true, because it is, in essence, a game night. Then the questions arise when I load up my backpack with books.....

Most women roll their eyes when they finally see the truth (I don't really look the part of a "standard" RPGer, so it doesn't creep out at once)...but, with time, I always offer to DM a game for them or invite them to my group's table. They usually decline.

 

[dungeon blaster]

Are girlfriends core?

Well you sure as **** better not call them 'supplemental'!


Great story!

When I was in high school I gamed pretty regularly with my friends (ahhh, back in the day when you could game to your heart's desire). We were all dorks, but most of us managed a thin veneer of acceptability while at school. One day we're yelling and screaming during an intense game of Battlelords (sci-fi rpg), when there's a knock on the door. Thinking it's probably my mom telling us to shut the hell up, I walk over to the door and open it. It's not my mom. It's a female friend...and next to her is the hottest girl at our school (who we were all trying to impress at the time). Awww crap. We all tried our darndest to save face but the damage was done. If we had acted like it was no big deal, we probably would have pulled it off better, but we really didn't know what to do.... However, we did get them to play a little.

 

[Will Nelson]

Now, when you meet a girl, I think it's a gamer's natural instinct that absolutely forbids you to tell them "Yes pet, once a week four friends and I sit in a loft, hunt down monsters and kill them... for their treasure and their precious precious XP." so obviously my first task was to find and allibi for what I did for four hours once a week in which I couldn't see her, and no, I definitly definitly couldn't put it off.

(Has anybody else been where I've been here? Tell me YOUR outrageous excuses!)

*puts on smoking jacket and pulls out a pipe*

Sit down, young one, and let me tell you a secret.

The key to attracting women, above all else, is to be comfortable with who you are. Honestly, master that, and the rest will fall into place.

Personally, I've never lied to a girl about my gaming. Makes no sense to. I am who I am. I enjoy gaming, mixed martial arts, sappy movies, football, and cuddling, as well as a million other things. Our varied interests are what makes up enjoyable to be around. Don't go around hiding anything that's important to you, unless it's sheep killing or something like.