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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Kalendraf" data-source="post: 1622563" data-attributes="member: 3433">You don't need to find a gamer to find true love!I was a lonely single guy until age 29.  My job, schedule and location all conspired against me for a variety of reasons from finding that special someone.  In late 1996, I changed cities, got a different job and in early 1997 I finally did meet someone.We had similar interests, including similar likes in music, movies and food.  She was also bit of a geek as far as computers and technology goes.  But most of all, she showed an interest in fantasy stuff.  Our personalities definitely clicked.  However, she was almost an anti-gamer in her attitude.  A former boyfriend of hers had spent more and more time playing games (Magic, specifically) and less and less time with her which she wound up blaming on the game rather than on the person.  I wasn't sure how she'd handle my gaming, so I mentioned it, but didn't make it a huge deal.  Her reaction was kind of strange.  While she didn't want me to play magic, she didn't seem to care about any other games, especially D&D.  As we dated, I began playing quite a bit more D&D, and she was interested enough to watch us play and later tried her hand at it as well.  She warmed to the idea, but is by no means a gamer.We eventually got married and recently celebrated our 5th anniversary.  We still have our differences over gaming.  She doesn't like it when I spend huge amounts of time on it.  But she loves to get together with the "widows" (the other gamers wives) on the night we play.  So the guys get to do their thing while the gals do theirs.So my advice isn't so much to focus on finding a gamer, but look for someone with similar interests to your own.  From what I've seen, people who show an interest in fantasy are quite likely to enjoy RPGs.  If you don't know anyone like that, ask around and see who's into that stuff.  Networking works.  More people are probably willing to admit a liking to certain fantasy novels or movies than they are to being a gamer.  Also, asking about whether someone likes fantasy doesn't immediately label you as a geek quite as much as asking whether they are a gamer.</blockquote>

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