Gamers who want to date gamers

[Gallo22]

This thread is great. Lots of fun. Well, I'd just like to add my 2 cents worth.

I've been married for over 15 years and my wife is my best friend, true and true. We have had a great life so far and do a ton of things together. Like our interest if fine wines, good movies and having three kids. However, she has never and will probably never, play in a role-playing game. Years ago when I would ask her if she would want to try, she would just laugh or smile and politely say no. She has never had any interest in it or desire to play. She (lovely) thinks we are all a bunch of deranged geeks, at which she is mostly right. She even yells (playfully) at me when I go out and spend $100 of gaming stuff! Which I do quite often. But... she's also the first one to put in a few "homemade" pizza's or make "homemade" buffalo wings or popcorn for me and my friends to enjoy while we game.

The point I'm getting at is you never know how its going to turn out or what your going to get when it comes to relationships. You may meet a woman/man who games or you may get what I got, who still to this day laughs at us (affectionatly). Don't over think it, or you may pass up on a good thing.

I would not want anything to be different than how I have it now. She's not a gamer and thats just fine with me. I don't think our relationship would be as good if she was one. Now don't take this the worng way. I'm not saying being married to a gamer would be bad or would not work out. I'm just saying whether or not she was a gamer has nothing to do with how great she is or how good our marriage is. She's even letting me go to Origins and Gen Con this year!

Gallo22

 

[Kahuna Burger]

Arravis wins...

FATALITY.

Hey, watch out... thats a very intellectually boring and trash pop culture sort of reference to make... You say things like that a certain other poster might not think you're cool enough to talk to him on any sort of social level....

Kahuna burger

 

[Arravis]

I'm just glad most everyone took my post with a sense of humor. The whole "elitist" thing did get my blood up a bit though... that attitude just gets to me. Anyway... back to the fun .

I do think this is a good time for anyone wishing to share one of their hobbies with their SO's. The gender equality seems to be on it's way to evening out. Nowhere near what it should be, but definately an improvement .

 

[Queenie]

OK, I'm going to put my $.02 in and tell you about my relationship.

I was the sorority girl and he was the reclusive "nerdy" type. We met and became best friends, all while he was trying to date me. I thought we couldn't be more different. I was the partying, city girl type while he loved hiking, nature and was definitely a country boy. But he was sweet, honest and funny and kept my attention. We started dating and we found out, low and behold, we had lots in common. It wasn't our musical taste (Classic Rock for him, Pop for me) or majors (Textile Design for me, Biology for him). It was that at the core, our morals and values were exactly the same. Plus we do share a love of reading and movies, fantasy and sci-fi are topics we love.

10 years later, with 1 year of marriage behind us, we are still just as different, but still the same.

A few years ago my husband put out a post online and found a bunch of people in our area to play D+D with. I thought he was nuts inviting a bunch of probable serial killers to our house, but low and behold there were no serial killers, just really, really nice regular guys (most of whom we have become good friends with). For a year they tried to get me to play, but I was too shy, or nervous, or whatever was going through my head.

Finally, they convinced me and I have been playing, and loving it ever since. Actually, I am now into D+D more than some of them, and it is something that my husband and I will always be able to share together.

Even if I hadn't liked it, I would still be supportive of something that my husband loved to do so much.

I guess the reason I am boring you with all of this is because I feel the heart of a good relationship is that you have similar goals in life, morals and values, and everything else will fall in place. Looking for someone with the same hobbies is a great place to start, but is not the only way. Two people in love will find common interests but will also respect the other persons need to be themselves.

The truth is everyone is just looking for someone to love and to love them back. And if that person happens to love gaming, well that is just an added bonus...

 

[Queenie]

OK, I'm going to put my $.02 in and tell you about my relationship.

I was the sorority girl and he was the reclusive "nerdy" type. We met and became best friends, all while he was trying to date me. I thought we couldn't be more different. I was the partying, city girl type while he loved hiking, nature and was definitely a country boy. But he was sweet, honest and funny and kept my attention. We started dating and we found out, low and behold, we had lots in common. It wasn't our musical taste (Classic Rock for him, Pop for me) or majors (Textile Design for me, Biology for him). It was that at the core, our morals and values were exactly the same. Plus we do share a love of reading and movies, fantasy and sci-fi are topics we love.

10 years later, with 1 year of marriage behind us, we are still just as different, but still the same.

A few years ago my husband put out a post online and found a bunch of people in our area to play D+D with. I thought he was nuts inviting a bunch of probable serial killers to our house, but low and behold there were no serial killers, just really, really nice regular guys (most of whom we have become good friends with). For a year they tried to get me to play, but I was too shy, or nervous, or whatever was going through my head.

Finally, they convinced me and I have been playing, and loving it ever since. Actually, I am now into D+D more than some of them, and it is something that my husband and I will always be able to share together.

Even if I hadn't liked it, I would still be supportive of something that my husband loved to do so much.

I guess the reason I am boring you with all of this is because I feel the heart of a good relationship is that you have similar goals in life, morals and values, and everything else will fall in place. Looking for someone with the same hobbies is a great place to start, but is not the only way. Two people in love will find common interests but will also respect the other persons need to be themselves.

The truth is everyone is just looking for someone to love and to love them back. And if that person happens to love gaming, well that is just an added bonus...

 

[Angcuru]

*SNIP*

I guess the reason I am boring you with all of this is because I feel the heart of a good relationship is that you have similar goals in life, morals and values, and everything else will fall in place. Looking for someone with the same hobbies is a great place to start, but is not the only way. Two people in love will find common interests but will also respect the other persons need to be themselves.

The truth is everyone is just looking for someone to love and to love them back. And if that person happens to love gaming, well that is just an added bonus...

I didn't find that boring at all. I think you're exactly right. My mother and father, while both being intellectual conservative christians from Jersey, have hugely different tastes in music, books, movies, hobbies, ect. but they still fell and love and got married. I'm evidence of that.

I believe that if two people have similar goals, outlook on life, values, morals, etc., it will work out. Hobbies come secondary, but if two people are compatible enough to get hitched, chances are that they may share hobbies as well. Just look over this thread and you'll see from those who have posted their experiences, getting your S.O. into gaming is not as difficult as some may think. Still not possible in some cases, but there will always be exceptions.

Just think of it this way: Love first, game later.

 

[I'm A Banana]

While I wouldn't mind finding a nice gamer girl to engage in some romantic exploits, I find that it's not essential.

None of the girls I've dated were gamers to start with, but they all were by the end...

So you don't so much need to find a girl who likes to game. You just need to convert a 'normal girl' to the Dork Side.

 

[Cygnus]

Arravis, Doc Ezra, and Blackshirt5...You are killin' me—stop making me laugh. I am at work for cryin' out loud!


And with this quote (to the best of my memory), I will throw in my lot with Arrivis. "A monkey can 'read' Nietzsche; he just doesn't understand it." A Fish called Wanda

Wayside:
I am sorry, but for someone who has read so much philosophy, I am surprised that you didn't notice what you did.

You wont share a hobby with some one who doesn't speak trendy or read the right books, and you are speaking against those who would like to spend "relationship" time with someone that shares their interests. That would be the same as saying "I won't associate with those who don't meet my criteria, and those who look for people that meet their criteria are wrong."

If I am mistaken, and you are actually for the right of a gamer to seek a gamer, then you have my apologies.

 

[Voneth]

I have more important requriements, like her being attractive and not crazy.

Amen brother, Amen.

Checklist:
Cute
Sane
Mature
Similar interests in genre stuff for books and movies
games

I think that should be a great list for any gaming boy ... or girl, who is looking for romance.

 

[Djeta Thernadier]

I have more important requriements, like her being attractive and not crazy.

C'mon...where's the fun in someone whos not at least a LITTLE crazy

teehee

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