If you want a good game it's important that the GM not cancel at short notice, unless you have a serious infectious disease or a family tragedy. "I had something better to do" is not good enough, unless it's something you notified the group about at least a couple sessions in advance. And a reliable GM makes for reliable players!
Good players, bad schedules
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If you want a good game it's important that the GM not cancel at short notice, unless you have a serious infectious disease or a family tragedy. "I had something better to do" is not good enough, unless it's something you notified the group about at least a couple sessions in advance. And a reliable GM makes for reliable players!
Dice4Hire
First Post
Very true. Cancelled sessions lead to more cancelled sessions IME.
There is 8 of us in our group. We have standing friday's unless the DM or 2 players cant make it. 6 are married, 3 have kids with a 4th expecting any day now(so we're on break). I dont think we have ever had a saturday or sunday ever. And holidays are right out since most have family stuff(like the 3 of us with kids, easter is NOT a day with nothing to do- those with kids have grandparents to go visit and stuff to do.....
In essence: Pick a day that works for you guys and stick with it. Scheduling various days, or wanting weekends and such has never worked for me. Hell my wargaming buddies we have standing playdate every 2nd friday of the month. Schedule it on a day and stick with it.
In essence: Pick a day that works for you guys and stick with it. Scheduling various days, or wanting weekends and such has never worked for me. Hell my wargaming buddies we have standing playdate every 2nd friday of the month. Schedule it on a day and stick with it.
Thunderfoot
Hero
I wish I had the perfect answer or pithy comment, but I haven't played in two years because I can't fins ANYONE who wants to play and commit to spending time to do so. I've played schedules where it was a couple hours a week and others where we only did marathon sessions once a month or so.
I think ANY gaming is better than NO gaming, trust me on this one...
I think ANY gaming is better than NO gaming, trust me on this one...
humble minion
Legend
Can't argue with that. Unfortunately I've had more than my fair share of family tragedies in the last 6-8 months.
Can't argue with that. Unfortunately I've had more than my fair share of family tragedies in the last 6-8 months.
Sorry to hear that.
Dice4Hire
First Post
Can't argue with that. Unfortunately I've had more than my fair share of family tragedies in the last 6-8 months.
Hopefully things will improve.
Zhaleskra
Adventurer
After reading some more of these posts, particularly Umbran's, I have revised my position to a state of "that might work, or it might not".
In theory I could game on weeknights, if I could guarantee I'd be home at a particular time. Even though my shift does have a stated end time, it doesn't always end then.
In theory I could game on weeknights, if I could guarantee I'd be home at a particular time. Even though my shift does have a stated end time, it doesn't always end then.
Thagdal
Explorer
Going to echo that people have lives, and sometimes the non gaming parts of those lives take precedence over gaming parts. And it just gets messier to schedule the older anf fuller lives get.
It does sound to me you're more annoyed about the romance fixation than the actual game stuff - it can be grating when friends totally ditch other friends for the newest romantic interest, so look at the postitive - they're stilling willing to schedule some time to play. I know a few people that cant manage even that when new in love.
It does sound to me you're more annoyed about the romance fixation than the actual game stuff - it can be grating when friends totally ditch other friends for the newest romantic interest, so look at the postitive - they're stilling willing to schedule some time to play. I know a few people that cant manage even that when new in love.
pming
Legend
Hiya
To all those who like to tout out the "My girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/etc won't let me play on weekends"...I have to ask. Would they let you join a bowling team? Softball team? What about volunteering at the homless shelter, or old-folks home?
Seriously, if your S.O. "wont let you" spend time with your friends for a few hours every week...well, lets just say that I wouldn't stick around. Anyone that selfish and unconcerned with you having friends doesn't deserve your time.
As for how to solve...my suggestion would be to find people who think of Role-Playing as a *hobby*, and not just as "a game I play sometimes". In all honesty, Ive found older players to be much more reliable. All but one of my players is married and/or has kids. Their S.O.'s understand that role-playing is something their S.O. enjoys and does with his/her friends. That's a GOOD thing. Those players that see it as a hobby enjoy it for all that it is; something to spend money on, time on, and generally enjoy in all it's forms (reading, writing, etc.). It's an outlet for stress and a way to keep a personal connection to friends.
Anyway, that's my 2¢ on it. I'd find new players. Hunt around for some old 1e/2e grognards...they tend to think more in terms of "hobby" than "a game".
^_^
Paul L. Ming
To all those who like to tout out the "My girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/etc won't let me play on weekends"...I have to ask. Would they let you join a bowling team? Softball team? What about volunteering at the homless shelter, or old-folks home?
Seriously, if your S.O. "wont let you" spend time with your friends for a few hours every week...well, lets just say that I wouldn't stick around. Anyone that selfish and unconcerned with you having friends doesn't deserve your time.
As for how to solve...my suggestion would be to find people who think of Role-Playing as a *hobby*, and not just as "a game I play sometimes". In all honesty, Ive found older players to be much more reliable. All but one of my players is married and/or has kids. Their S.O.'s understand that role-playing is something their S.O. enjoys and does with his/her friends. That's a GOOD thing. Those players that see it as a hobby enjoy it for all that it is; something to spend money on, time on, and generally enjoy in all it's forms (reading, writing, etc.). It's an outlet for stress and a way to keep a personal connection to friends.
Anyway, that's my 2¢ on it. I'd find new players. Hunt around for some old 1e/2e grognards...they tend to think more in terms of "hobby" than "a game".
^_^
Paul L. Ming
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