I've gamed with you on the PbP boards and that Maptools game, it was a blast CG, but the real world takes front seat. I wish you all the best and hope that you and your wife can make amends. My spouse & I went through a pretty rough patch about a year & a half ago, kind of similar situation, I dropped off the boards, focused on her and our family, and got everything in order. I found honesty to be the best policy, I used to "sneak" away to game, now we spoke and I said that I'd like some time for me to do this, and then I give her the same amount of time.
Good Luck!