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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Djeta Thernadier" data-source="post: 1436939" data-attributes="member: 12043">Hmmm. Yes. I guess it is geeky. But I also think that the hobbies of a lot of the people I know are "geeky". I have a friend who frequently plays rollerhockey in his front yard with his friends (they are all about 28 years old). It makes them happy but it is kind of odd. I work with this obnoxious, pretentious woman (whom I can't stand) who seriously talks all the time about her pretentious art films and her pretentious performance art (involing her painting herself with paint and making zoo animal sounds on stage to drumming music). I think that is the epitome of GEEK. Yet she thinks I'm "weird" because I like fantasy. I don't get particulalry mad at her (she's not worth it) but really, everyone has something in their life that is "geeky" in it's own right. If they don't , they must be pretty dull people.  Well, it's been a while since I have been single, but lets just say I was. I would not ditch my gaming group on a friday or saturday night to go out with some guy, first of all. My friends come first. Sorry. Ain't gonna happen. And no, I don't think you should be evangelical about it withing 30 minutes of meeting someone, but why hide a major hobby of yours from someone you are potentially going to pursue an intimate relationship with? Do you want someone who would judge you? I sure wouldn't. If I should ever become single again, and I meet someone and he asks what I do for fun, D&D will be on that list and if he feels he does not want to spend time with me because of it...so be it. In fact, if I were looking at online dating sites, I'd probably use RPG as a search when looking up someone's hobbies. I don't want to be with a judgemental person who can't accept me for who I am. I would not go off on a long tangent upon first meeting someone about what D&D is if they didn't know. But if they ask me what my hobbies are, I'm not going to lie or leave something off that is a big part of my spare time. I don't get the appeal of baseball, but if I met someone who told me he was a diehard baseball fan, and I thought we had other things in common, I certainly would not be judgemental of him. Trust me, if some girl (or guy, ladies) is going to react negatively to you or turn you away for a date because you listed D&D as a hobby, they are probably (now I know there are exceptions) not someone you will have a very good relationship with.  Hmmmm. I limit my "geek activities" to whatever I feel like. Gaming does not define me, just as my other hobbies and interests and music I like and things I own do not define me. I WISH I had time to do all things you listed there , but I don't. I have quite a nice life outside of gaming and "geek" stuff. As do most of the people who post here and who I know who game IRL. I have gaming friends (whom I wish I had more time to spend with outside of gaming) and non gaming friends, and a great family (all of whom think gaming is kinda nifty). People should do what makes them happy.I don't mind cliques. Cliques are just a natural part of society. People who have stuff in common tend to stick together. I eat lunch every day with the same two people. Some might say we're a clique. I appreciate the levity in your post but I had to comment on these few things. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" /></blockquote>

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