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<blockquote data-quote="the Jester" data-source="post: 7959981" data-attributes="member: 1210">I'll speak up as a DM who is perfectly happy to dabble in subjects that would, for most groups, cross the line, including cannibalism, rape, violence against children, drugs, etc.First off, by &quot;dabble in&quot;, I mean that those things are out there in the world, and that pcs can and do brush up against them. &quot;They killed my baby&quot; is a great motivator- but it works best when it's an npc whose baby was killed asking good-guy pcs for help. I don't employ any of those things against the pcs as a matter of course, but they could be the victim of any of those things in theory. In practice- well, I ran a sexual assault scene exactly once, when I was around 13 or 14. There was a lot of glossing over the details followed by serious revenge involving a 1e staff of withering being employed in a very fitting way. The player was fine with it; but it was a male player, and we were, you know, kids, too young to have fully developed things like good taste, common sense, and empathy. And I knew the people in the group- I knew them well enough to know that nobody was going to freak out about it (we didn't have the term 'triggered' back then, hair splitting aside).Since then, I haven't seen any situation where it was appropriate to the game. And even if I did, being as I am now an adult with a much greater understanding of things like trauma, empathy, and the creepiness of the scene, I would be very leery to employ it. Even knowing the members of my group largely for decades, and knowing that none of them would be horribly offended, or seriously disturbed, or triggered, or whatever- it's just a creepy scene to run. So, even though it's a possibility in theory, I think it's very unlikely to ever come up.So, no, I would say it's not a normal thing, even at a table where sexual assault is theoretically 'allowed' by the social contract.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="the Jester, post: 7959981, member: 1210"] I'll speak up as a DM who is perfectly happy to dabble in subjects that would, for most groups, cross the line, including cannibalism, rape, violence against children, drugs, etc. First off, by "dabble in", I mean that those things are out there in the world, and that pcs can and do brush up against them. "They killed my baby" is a great motivator- but it works best when it's an npc whose baby was killed asking good-guy pcs for help. I don't employ any of those things against the pcs as a matter of course, but they could be the victim of any of those things [i]in theory.[/i] In practice- well, I ran a sexual assault scene exactly once, when I was around 13 or 14. There was a lot of glossing over the details followed by serious revenge involving a 1e [i]staff of withering[/i] being employed in a very fitting way. The player was fine with it; but it was a male player, and we were, you know, [i]kids,[/i] too young to have fully developed things like good taste, common sense, and empathy. And I knew the people in the group- I knew them well enough to know that nobody was going to freak out about it (we didn't have the term 'triggered' back then, hair splitting aside). Since then, I haven't seen any situation where it was appropriate to the game. And even if I did, being as I am now an adult with a much greater understanding of things like trauma, empathy, and the creepiness of the scene, I would be very leery to employ it. Even knowing the members of my group largely for decades, and knowing that none of them would be horribly offended, or seriously disturbed, or triggered, or whatever- it's just a creepy scene to run. So, even though it's a possibility [i]in theory[/i], I think it's very unlikely to ever come up. So, no, I would say it's not a normal thing, even at a table where sexual assault is theoretically 'allowed' by the social contract. [/QUOTE]

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