Nagol hits it on the head, that the DM isn't going to initiate anything he's not comfortable with (actually, nor is a player).
As a general rule, sex, sexual assault, blatant religious or political bashing where it's obvious who the group is a good idea to keep off the table if you don't have a discussion ahead of the time. You never know who you're going to offend.
In the same vein, never rape or strip down a captured PC. Another way to offend them.
When a player goes random wierd and starts trying to do things outside the scope of what the group came to do, you can handle it in our out of game. I suspect out of game is better, as you can just retcon that it was never started, once you halt the game. Basically, the moment the player says, "I take her out back and..." You step up and say, "I'm not comfortable running that kind of game. You can take your action back, or get whacked by a powerful vigilante who's watching from the rooftop, or leave the game."
As for Wik's original tale, thanks for sharing. I do find it wierd that his response (as a player of a presumably heroic PC) is to hang back to something horrific. I'm not sure that's a good response in game, or in real life. In game, I guess (and so did your GM) that I'd expect the players to get mad and rush in to help the girl. In real life, I'd hope that each and every one of us would muster up the courage to help, at the minimum, scream for help.
If nothing else, what Wik describes sounds like one of the 3 basic reactions in a situation, fight, flight or freeze (yes, freezing is a 3rd reaction people have to "events"). I think because the situation was more real for him, than the usual, he froze. In all honesty, freezing is the worst thing you can do. It leaves you exposed, and doesn't help anybody else. It is something folks have to have trained out of them.
Its well and good to be revolted by the thought of sexual assault (or other things that revolt you, like green beans). But never let it make you powerless. That's a vulnerability that does no one any goood.
I say this, as a trained black belt. I know how to kill people, and I know that people can kill me. I've never been in an actual fight, though I have plates in my head from sparring. I hope that I will never have to use what I learned, and I hope that my training kicks in should I need it. So I'm not trying to bust your balls as some bad-mo-fo. I'm just saying that freezing, while natural, is not a reaction you want to have. That most means getting mad and doing harm unto a wrong-doer or getting yourself out of harm. In a game, you have free license to do the former, so get to it and learn to hate and kill bad guys.
As a general rule, sex, sexual assault, blatant religious or political bashing where it's obvious who the group is a good idea to keep off the table if you don't have a discussion ahead of the time. You never know who you're going to offend.
In the same vein, never rape or strip down a captured PC. Another way to offend them.
When a player goes random wierd and starts trying to do things outside the scope of what the group came to do, you can handle it in our out of game. I suspect out of game is better, as you can just retcon that it was never started, once you halt the game. Basically, the moment the player says, "I take her out back and..." You step up and say, "I'm not comfortable running that kind of game. You can take your action back, or get whacked by a powerful vigilante who's watching from the rooftop, or leave the game."
As for Wik's original tale, thanks for sharing. I do find it wierd that his response (as a player of a presumably heroic PC) is to hang back to something horrific. I'm not sure that's a good response in game, or in real life. In game, I guess (and so did your GM) that I'd expect the players to get mad and rush in to help the girl. In real life, I'd hope that each and every one of us would muster up the courage to help, at the minimum, scream for help.
If nothing else, what Wik describes sounds like one of the 3 basic reactions in a situation, fight, flight or freeze (yes, freezing is a 3rd reaction people have to "events"). I think because the situation was more real for him, than the usual, he froze. In all honesty, freezing is the worst thing you can do. It leaves you exposed, and doesn't help anybody else. It is something folks have to have trained out of them.
Its well and good to be revolted by the thought of sexual assault (or other things that revolt you, like green beans). But never let it make you powerless. That's a vulnerability that does no one any goood.
I say this, as a trained black belt. I know how to kill people, and I know that people can kill me. I've never been in an actual fight, though I have plates in my head from sparring. I hope that I will never have to use what I learned, and I hope that my training kicks in should I need it. So I'm not trying to bust your balls as some bad-mo-fo. I'm just saying that freezing, while natural, is not a reaction you want to have. That most means getting mad and doing harm unto a wrong-doer or getting yourself out of harm. In a game, you have free license to do the former, so get to it and learn to hate and kill bad guys.
