Reply to thread

Message

<blockquote data-quote="Man in the Funny Hat" data-source="post: 5990858" data-attributes="member: 32740">If this was the first that Flumph has formally heard of being disliked or in danger of being shown the door why shouldn't he be surprised and disgruntled?&nbsp; People don't have ESP.&nbsp; Even when everyone around them is annoyed by him and avoids him that doesn't mean HE sees it.Yeah, If you're the DM you owed him notice that his behavior was a problem, then another notice if his behavior wasn't being altered, and THEN you could have informed him that he was out.Well it's a can of worms alright.&nbsp; How big depends on how everybody involved proceeds and acts from this point.&nbsp; Now, I assume that you AREN'T going to change your mind and say, &quot;Oh.&nbsp; Sorry.&nbsp; Nevermind.&quot;&nbsp; That the disruption to your group by his presence is simply too entrenched.&nbsp; Well, so be it.&nbsp; It IS your choice whether he stays or goes.&nbsp; But unless there was more that took place than you've mentioned I would say that you still owe him an apology for your own lack of communication.Remember that you can't really expect him to react positively or sensibly to what you say at this point because he's already been ambushed.&nbsp; By all means smooth his ruffled feathers, but if he's genuinely a disruptive influence then stick to your guns on that score.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Man in the Funny Hat, post: 5990858, member: 32740"] If this was the first that Flumph has formally heard of being disliked or in danger of being shown the door why shouldn't he be surprised and disgruntled? People don't have ESP. Even when everyone around them is annoyed by him and avoids him that doesn't mean HE sees it. Yeah, If you're the DM you owed him notice that his behavior was a problem, then another notice if his behavior wasn't being altered, and THEN you could have informed him that he was out. Well it's a can of worms alright. How big depends on how everybody involved proceeds and acts from this point. Now, I assume that you AREN'T going to change your mind and say, "Oh. Sorry. Nevermind." That the disruption to your group by his presence is simply too entrenched. Well, so be it. It IS your choice whether he stays or goes. But unless there was more that took place than you've mentioned I would say that you still owe him an apology for your own lack of communication. Remember that you can't really expect him to react positively or sensibly to what you say at this point because he's already been ambushed. By all means smooth his ruffled feathers, but if he's genuinely a disruptive influence then stick to your guns on that score. [/QUOTE]

Verification