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<blockquote data-quote="Desdichado" data-source="post: 5991004" data-attributes="member: 2205">But that's not what he said, what he said was &quot;most people would have gotten the hint.&quot;&nbsp; That's not passive aggressive at all.&nbsp; I think that's a totally different kind of thing.&nbsp; Not to imply that there may not have been passive aggressive behavior involved, but that comment specifically that you responded to doesn't indicate it.&nbsp; I think it's perfectly acceptable to believe that people will take broad hints, and to express surprise when they don't.Where I'm struggling is (for the OP), why did you tell him if 1) you aren't the one having a problem with him, and 2) you can't even articulate exactly what the problem is?&nbsp; It sounds like you went off a bit half-cocked; I would have at least sat down with everyone else and said, &quot;Look, if this is causing the group to fall apart, then let me figure out exactly what the issues are, and I'll tell him.&quot;</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Desdichado, post: 5991004, member: 2205"] But that's not what he said, what he said was "most people would have gotten the hint." That's not passive aggressive at all. I think that's a totally different kind of thing. Not to imply that there may not have been passive aggressive behavior involved, but that comment specifically that you responded to doesn't indicate it. I think it's perfectly acceptable to believe that people will take broad hints, and to express surprise when they don't. Where I'm struggling is (for the OP), why did you tell him if 1) you aren't the one having a problem with him, and 2) you can't even articulate exactly what the problem is? It sounds like you went off a bit half-cocked; I would have at least sat down with everyone else and said, "Look, if this is causing the group to fall apart, then let me figure out exactly what the issues are, and I'll tell him." [/QUOTE]

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