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Message: <blockquote data-quote="buzz" data-source="post: 2784362" data-attributes="member: 6777">I guess I've been amazingly lucky. I'm in three groups right now, all of which were spawned from my posting on gaming sites, and all of them are filled with exceptional people. I didn't even have to look that hard. Two were first attempts; I showed up to the initial invitations, and have been gaming with them ever since (about three years now). The third group was spawned from one of the first two, and has been together for two years or so.I've also met some excellent gamers at ENWorld Gamedays, and gotten many invitations to join their groups (though, sadly, had to decline becasue of my existing commitments). I would definitely reccommend attending your local Gameday, if there's one in your area. The less-desirables have been few and far-between, IME.Honestly, it's only been at GenCon that I've had genuinely bad experiences, and really only one was egregious.My advice would be:1. Ditch your current group. Life is too short for bad gaming. If there's anyone worthwhile, take them with you. Be honest, too. Don't just mysteriously stop showing up. Even if they're jerks, it's common courtesy.2. Post on sites like ENWorld that you're looking for a new group. Be up-front, but do so without making demands. I.e., don't post stuff like "no teenagers, please" or "no power gamers". It's better, IMO, to simply describe yourself, and let that attract similar people.E.g., "Looking for a new group to play D&D. I'm 35, male, and have been gaming for 25 years. I prefer story-focused games with emphasis on character development, and would like to campiagn in Eberron. I tend to be a player more than a DM. I prefer gaming in a non-smoking environment."The various cues in this description should help narrow the field of potential respondents, w/o seeming like you're some jerk who wants them to pass a test. <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />Of course, they still do have to pass a test. If you dan't enjoy playing with them after 2-3 sessions (or the first session, if problems are obvious), bid them adieu.3. Be picky, as others have said. If the initial emails or phone calls creep you out, don't waste any more time.</blockquote>

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