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Message: <blockquote data-quote="rounser" data-source="post: 2785382" data-attributes="member: 1106">I think that whether you believe that or not depends on what books you've read, and what assumptions you buy into.I understand that there's been enough research with identical twins (i.e. same genes, there's your control) to suggest that there is a large degree of predisposition.  That, and the emotional centre of your brain is a very poor listener - and there are many more connections "from" it rather than "to" it, and it's used to ignoring reason.I think there's some truth to what you're saying insofar that even if you're predisposed towards immature characteristics such as a short temper, defensiveness, paranoia, schadenfreude or whatever, there are workarounds that you can find that work for yourself...but it's not as easy to "be mature" as if you didn't have these emotional characteristics in the first place, and a lot of people never manage it.  Perhaps it's like the involuntary salivation you might perform when you smell food - it's difficult to unlearn that, just as it might be difficult to educate away a stimulus like someone being rude triggering an automatic rise in blood pressure in some people.In short, I think that you have some brain physiology which isn't the same as everyone else in the same way that your face is different to that of everyone else, and that though the brain is very adaptable in some areas, there is a limit to that adaptability in others.In a sense, this speculation of mine about the human mind is liberating - that there is an essential "you-ness" that the big bad world cannot influence very much, short of brain damage.  (Whether others begin banging their heads against a wall because of it is beside the point). <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f642.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)"  data-smilie="1"data-shortname=":)" />I'm not so sure of that.  My pet theory is that male geeks usually lie somewhere on the autism through aspergers syndrome continuum (it's not a black and white thing apparently; you can just have a touch of it).  Apparently Silicon Valley was producing a lot of kids with aspergers due to geeks marrying geeks.</blockquote>

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