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Its Armageddon! (rant)
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Treebore
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I used to be a High School teacher. 90% of them are rude and disrespectful property damaging criminals. Their jacked up druggie/uncaring parents are to blame.
I get compliments on how well behaved and respectful my kids are when I go to peoples houses. (ask Harmon) They ask to get a drink, they ask to use your bathroom, they ask to touch your computer, and if you say "no", they listen.
Mine age 10 to 14 now. When Harmon met my oldest they were 11 and 12. Harmon seemed to even like how they played D&D.
Edit: You can ask Darthjaye and Coyote 6 as well. Darthjaye knows all my kids.
I get compliments on how well behaved and respectful my kids are when I go to peoples houses. (ask Harmon) They ask to get a drink, they ask to use your bathroom, they ask to touch your computer, and if you say "no", they listen.
Mine age 10 to 14 now. When Harmon met my oldest they were 11 and 12. Harmon seemed to even like how they played D&D.
Edit: You can ask Darthjaye and Coyote 6 as well. Darthjaye knows all my kids.
LightPhoenix
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Personally, I'd ban the parents from your house too. If they don't respect you enough to discipline their kids when they're screwing with your stuff, to financial detriment, then you don't really need them around either.
BlueBlackRed
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Wow you all are way too nice for my tastes.
Well except for the killing them and taking their stuff...until you find out all of "their stuff" used to be "your stuff" before they stole it.
Dannyalcatraz I'm sorry about your grandmother, and I'm sorry that you have to put up with bad family members.
There is no easy answer. Cutting the brats out of your life means cutting others out that you might want to keep in touch with.
Change your locks, passwords, and so on just for starters.
Personally, I'd cut them out of my life.
I've worked way too hard to get "my stuff".
I have a step-sister who got pregnant at 15, has caused strife for several family members, been arrested multiple times for selling cocaine, and has had her child taken away from her. (I'm sure there's more, but I think you've got the point.)
To her, the world revolves around her. When my grandfather died a couple years back, someone she had only met once before, she hogged the phone calling her friends, telling them how traumatic it was for her!
Other family members keep dealing with her and get burned every single time.
I do not associate with her and on the rare chance I am around her I am polite but cold. And because I give a no-nonsense kind of attitude she doesn't bother trying to play her violin on me.
Well except for the killing them and taking their stuff...until you find out all of "their stuff" used to be "your stuff" before they stole it.
Dannyalcatraz I'm sorry about your grandmother, and I'm sorry that you have to put up with bad family members.
There is no easy answer. Cutting the brats out of your life means cutting others out that you might want to keep in touch with.
Change your locks, passwords, and so on just for starters.
Personally, I'd cut them out of my life.
I've worked way too hard to get "my stuff".
I have a step-sister who got pregnant at 15, has caused strife for several family members, been arrested multiple times for selling cocaine, and has had her child taken away from her. (I'm sure there's more, but I think you've got the point.)
To her, the world revolves around her. When my grandfather died a couple years back, someone she had only met once before, she hogged the phone calling her friends, telling them how traumatic it was for her!
Other family members keep dealing with her and get burned every single time.
I do not associate with her and on the rare chance I am around her I am polite but cold. And because I give a no-nonsense kind of attitude she doesn't bother trying to play her violin on me.
Thanks for the condolences, everyone...
As for the kids, I can't exile them all...yet. The vast majority of them were the offspring of relatives displaced by Katrina. Several were living in my (and other local relatives') house. They're only just recently getting on their feet.
In the interim, the kids basically treated our houses like it was the Superdome...
But soon and very soon, I'll be breaking out the Ban-hammer.![:]](http://www.enworld.org/forum/images/smilies/devious.png "Devious :]")
As for the kids, I can't exile them all...yet. The vast majority of them were the offspring of relatives displaced by Katrina. Several were living in my (and other local relatives') house. They're only just recently getting on their feet.
In the interim, the kids basically treated our houses like it was the Superdome...
But soon and very soon, I'll be breaking out the Ban-hammer.
JRRNeiklot
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Kids need their ass beat. It's the best "medication" they can get. These days parents would rather dope up their kids than discipline them, let alone spend any time with them. I could loan you my grandfather's old razor strap.....
Can I interest you in a trade? 
Nyaricus
First Post
Hey Danny. Sorry to hear about your grandmother; my grandfather also passed away just last month after a comparable time in long-standing pain. It's for the better; it's good to hear that you know that 
As for the kids.... I wouldn't in the least call what they do "minor". I'm only 18, and while I'm hardly an exemplary person, man would I never, ever consider destroying a relatives property or disrespecting others to the degree these kids are doing. My suggestion would be to get locks on all your doors in your house to important areas (ie your computer room, bedroom, gaming room, etc) and keeping the keys on your person at all times. If the kids misbehave, give them an earful. If the parents complain, well it's YOUR house so it's YOUR rules, and they aren't even being civil, nevermind following any rules.
I'm personally a victim of childhood physical abuse from my father, so I'd never condone a spanking, or the like; what I would try to do is assert your **AUTHORITY** where ever possible, and making sure that these kids are staying in line.
OTOH, ensure you are being compassionate as well. You don't want to be the Bad Guy; try talking with them and getting to know them. If they aren't respecting your property, they liely dont respect you - so turn that around. In any case, an open line of communication is a great tool which I find isn't utilized enough.
Good luck
cheers,
--N
As for the kids.... I wouldn't in the least call what they do "minor". I'm only 18, and while I'm hardly an exemplary person, man would I never, ever consider destroying a relatives property or disrespecting others to the degree these kids are doing. My suggestion would be to get locks on all your doors in your house to important areas (ie your computer room, bedroom, gaming room, etc) and keeping the keys on your person at all times. If the kids misbehave, give them an earful. If the parents complain, well it's YOUR house so it's YOUR rules, and they aren't even being civil, nevermind following any rules.
I'm personally a victim of childhood physical abuse from my father, so I'd never condone a spanking, or the like; what I would try to do is assert your **AUTHORITY** where ever possible, and making sure that these kids are staying in line.
OTOH, ensure you are being compassionate as well. You don't want to be the Bad Guy; try talking with them and getting to know them. If they aren't respecting your property, they liely dont respect you - so turn that around. In any case, an open line of communication is a great tool which I find isn't utilized enough.
Good luck
cheers,
--N
Oh, if I had caught them in the act, I'm pretty sure there would have been a spanking delivered by yours truly- it worked for me, it can work for them...
But these kids were "lucky"- every event occurred while I was busy doing something like trying to help a cousin or an aunt find directions to a job interview, or going out to pick up dinner, and meanwhile, the kids are off elsewhere in the house, completely unsupervised.
The most victimized area is (wouldn't you know) my "sanctum quasi-sanctorum"- an upstairs second den that has no doors.
The good news- while they did all of these things, they never did anything that would have TRULY pissed me off. The fire in the bathroom was minor- no permenant damage beyond a scorched bath-mat. The damaged minis, while expensive in total, were largely the worst of my minis...you know, a cheap "orc with hammer" as opposed to a Ral Partha Ice Drake from the 1970's...and they didn't touch any of my collectibles or electronics (except the computer). I have art (pottery, glass, etc.) in that room that is better than some of the stuff in the Dallas Museum of Art (by the same artists)- and they didn't even glance at it (its still dusty)- it simply didn't attract their young eyes like the kewl little minis...
But these kids were "lucky"- every event occurred while I was busy doing something like trying to help a cousin or an aunt find directions to a job interview, or going out to pick up dinner, and meanwhile, the kids are off elsewhere in the house, completely unsupervised.
The most victimized area is (wouldn't you know) my "sanctum quasi-sanctorum"- an upstairs second den that has no doors.
The good news- while they did all of these things, they never did anything that would have TRULY pissed me off. The fire in the bathroom was minor- no permenant damage beyond a scorched bath-mat. The damaged minis, while expensive in total, were largely the worst of my minis...you know, a cheap "orc with hammer" as opposed to a Ral Partha Ice Drake from the 1970's...and they didn't touch any of my collectibles or electronics (except the computer). I have art (pottery, glass, etc.) in that room that is better than some of the stuff in the Dallas Museum of Art (by the same artists)- and they didn't even glance at it (its still dusty)- it simply didn't attract their young eyes like the kewl little minis...
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