That debate has been beat to death and the point wasn't to start it over here.
Then stop bringing it up. I'm responding directly to a post you made.
If John Doe says "4E isn't D&D", you can be accepting, understand that he is OBVIOUSLY expressing an opinion and be glad that you are both enjoying good games. Or you can stamp your feet and call his statement insulting.
Oh wow. You don't have much respect for people do you? I like the way you phrased your sentence to portray me as a petulant child while you lecture me on being respectful of other people's opinions and play styles. A brief and elegant bit of passive aggressiveness. Rich with irony too.
And, frankly, I don't care which you do. The first is certainly better, but the second offers more fun time for me. So whatever.
Oh, but you do care Bryon. You see, it isn't me that is on every single thread in this forum someone starts talking about "4e Dungeons and Dragons" that immediately jumps up to take a position of whether 4e is D&D or not. That's YOU. Most people will not even recognize me as a regular commentator on the edition wars at all.
So I think you need to thrust yourself on casual commentators who are enjoying talking about their game as a means to talk down to them, as you did to me in that last paragraph. I think that's how you find your fun, and I'm probably just encouraging you by responding to you. I think that you would have considerably less fun if people didn't respond to your provocations at all and simply accepted them, as you suggest I should do.
But, if you choose option two and reject being accepting, you really can't expect to turn around and call for acceptance. Or at least not without being called on it.
Listen, Mercurius simply said that we all have different ways of playing the same game, and that playing different editions is part of the difference in how we play. However, we can all acknowledge that what we play is part of the wider hobby of Dungeons and Dragons. That's a pretty non-controversial statement to everyone but those who want to make the claim that other people don't know how to play D&D properly.
You want to make the claim that you can't have a good ol' D&D experience with 4e... fine. Nobody will gainsay you, including the OP. If you want to say that I am not having a D&D experience, I'll tell you that you just don't have the same perception of the game that I do, and you're being rude in assuming that you are a better arbiter of what is the "spirit" of D&D than I am.