Abstraction
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Turanil said:
Oh, I don't think you should hold back on advice. I think Umbran just wanted to make you aware of a possible cultural difference. Any advice is useful, or can be freely ignored!
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More advice needed: Having problems with therapist's business place.
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Oh, I don't think you should hold back on advice. I think Umbran just wanted to make you aware of a possible cultural difference. Any advice is useful, or can be freely ignored!
devilish
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Standard caveats: not a doctor, not a therapist, etc.
Re: the meds, can you go to your family physician
and get the Rx? I believe they can write them out
for you (I think my mother had her GP write them when
my father died long, low, time ago.) until things
get 'fixed' at the therapists office.
One less thing to worry about
Re: the meds, can you go to your family physician
and get the Rx? I believe they can write them out
for you (I think my mother had her GP write them when
my father died long, low, time ago.) until things
get 'fixed' at the therapists office.
One less thing to worry about
Turanil said:
Not handy at the moment. After I've prepped for my gaming sessions this weekend, I'll see if I can dig one up.
As Abstraction mentioned, I was mostly just bringing up a difference you might not have been aware of. I've seen people get hot about it elsewhere, so I figured the info might be helpful.
The general disclaimer I put in because people (occasionally myself included) forget that a bunch of laymen who have minimal information do not really constitute a reliable source of information about really important topics, especially when someone's well-being is at stake. Advice about how to deal with a poorly run office is reasonable, advice about medical procedures from a person who isn't a health professional is asking for trouble.
Turanil
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I apologize if what I said looked like a medical procedure. I really don't see what's so "medical procedure" in my sayings; but if someone else thinks otherwise t's not. It's just an "idea" (as requested in the original post) based on my experiences of something that gave good results for me. Nuff said.Umbran said:
Barendd Nobeard
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AuroraGyps, their behavior is extremely unprofessional. Without hearing their side of the story (the famous EN World response to any complaint), I will go even further and call their behavior immoral and unethical.
If you can, get help somewhere else. If you can't go somewhere else (due to your insurance coverage, etc.), then talking to them at the office seems to be your only recourse. Good luck.
If you can, get help somewhere else. If you can't go somewhere else (due to your insurance coverage, etc.), then talking to them at the office seems to be your only recourse. Good luck.
Finster
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If you would like to talk with someone in a similar predicament, my fiancee has Social Anxiety too. She said that she would be more than willing to talk. I have given my email address below. She's very nice (this coming from the guy that fell in love with her) and articulate.
Even if you don't respond, just remember: you are not alone, and plenty of people care.
Even if you don't respond, just remember: you are not alone, and plenty of people care.
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Piratecat
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Abstraction said:
Probably best to avoid gross generalizations -- but that's not to say that this may not be the best therapist for Aurora. A great rule of thumb is to keep trying until you get the person who you have a great working relationship with. You may have to go through some incorrect matches to do so. I have no doubt that you have the strength to do so, AG.
Qlippoth
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To be honest, this whole situation sounds very similar to what my ex-girlfriend is going through: she's on (permanent) disability, going to the only local clinic that takes Medicare/SSI patients, severely underfunded (i.e. overloaded with patients whose schedules are very difficult to manage). Please understand--I'm not coming down on you, AuroraGyps--what you are encountering is exactly what my ex-gf deals with week-to-week. Fortunately for her, her (overloaded) therapist does great work with her...it's just that the clinic's budget is stretched to the limit right now.Piratecat said:
I agree with PC's suggestion to "keep trying until you get the" right person--unfortunately, I know how difficult that can be. I've dealt with a number of therapists who did no good for me; the only thing you can do (as hard as it is) is to find one who "clicks."
I know your options here are limited, but I must stress, please keep trying. You are standing up for yourself--and you need to do what is best for you. If your current professional isn't cutting it, do what you can to find a new one. Stay strong.
AuroraGyps
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Update
Ok, so here's what happened today. I got a call at about 9AM this morning from my therapist, asking what was going on. I told her about the messages I'd left for her, how I'd mentioned to the receptionist that I wasn't getting calls back, that I left a message for the office manager, and about how upset I was. She said she only got the message about rescheduling, from last week, and the upset message to the office manager, so everything must have been a technical problem (which I figure goes back to about Jan 14... that's pretty bad) I guess. I'm not thrilled with the reason, but there's not much I can do about it. I told her about how things were going for me (badly) and was crying. She was very concerned about me. I told her I was out of meds (which was mentioned in one of the "lost" messages) and wondered if the Shrink could just call a prescription for a weeks meds to get me through to my appointment on Feb 4. No go... not with me so upset and not even if he talked to me on the phone, he wanted to see me in person. She called back around 10AM to say the fit me in at 2:15. I hung up the phone and burst into tears again. With me being depressed and stressed out, I hadn't showered since Mon (gross, I know, but I spent my days waiting next to the phone and by night, I was so emotionally drained from not getting called, I just went to sleep) and I wasn't sure if I was up to going out (my original post mentions how I get to the place) or up to seeing these people face to face. I called again, and left a message saying I just couldn't do it, that I'd just have to wait till next week, and that it was my hang up and I'd just have to deal. She called back at 12 and said she really wanted me to come in and just throw on a coat to catch the bus in 15 minutes ( that was the bus I had to take to make it.. the next bus was at 1:50) so I could make the appointment, and I mentioned the not having showered thing and that I really wasn't up to it (aka freaking out and upset). She asked when I could make it and I said about 3, so she said relax, take a shower, and we'll see ya down here. Well, I actually made it. She gave me a hug and said she was so happy I made it and that she was proud. Then I went to see the shrink. He asked more questions than the first time I met him (he just wrote scripts and I left) and I rambled about all the stuff I was going through and feeling. I showed him the papers he signed and he replied," I don't fill these out dear (my therapist was supposed to fill out the info, he just signs it) and passed the buck to the office girls. However, he filled it all out right there and then wrote me scripts for everything I'm on. He also asked me what I wanted to do about my meds... how should I know, I haven't even taken a college course, but I told him about what the meds I'm on do and what other meds have/haven't done, so I'm on the same stuff.
So, all is well, I guess. I got back to where I live, ran to the grocery store, picked up a ton of stuff (mostly comfort food
) since I knew I was taking a taxi home because I had to buy kittie litter and I wasn't gonna carry that home. I feel a bit more relaxed and plan to try to give my brain a break this weekend. Also, I finally got my Spike (from BtVS) calender from Amazon today after the weather delayed it's delivery (YAY!). I do have an appointment downtown w/ Social Services (bleh) (it's about whether I can work or do I get training... I was determined to be disabled by the guy guy I saw and it's the same guy I'm seeing this time) AND I got paperwork regarding my SSI being denied and how I should have a appeal hearing in about a year (grrr).
Mostly talking to my therapist every other week. I have alot of issues to deal with (anger over my divorce, depression, not having friends, how to make friends (I'm kinda rusty), the anxiety problem, dealing with stress) so we have alot of ground to cover. Alot of the time, we just try to get me through whatever's getting to me at the time. We are also planning on working out a treatment plan, but I'm not sure what her methods are with that yet.
My panic attacks aren't like what alot people hear as the classic symptoms, like dizzyness, feeling like you're having a heart attack, breaking out in a sweat. For me, I get really tense mentally and physically. My neck and back get all tight. Sometimes, my hands get kinda shaky and I'll get jumpy. That's mostly when I get in a tense situation. If it's me not being able to go somewhere, it's kinda like I'm paralyzed. I keep trying to get going, get ready, and it's like something's fighting me. I get more and more tense and upset, which makes it harder and harder to fight my problem and get going. It's exhausting mentally, emotionally, and physically. The last symptom, is that when I'm "freaking out" my mind is just racing, sometimes running through several different thoughts all at once. I can't focus, I can't think, and so it's even HARDER to concentrate on doing whatever I'm trying to do. All of it is really tiring and sometimes all I can do after is sleep (plus, I tend to pick being unconscious to freaking out most times.... although sometimes that bites me in the butt when I have a nightmare).
Hope that answers your questions. Don't worry about asking, I'm cool with talking about it. Yeah, it's kinda embarrasing, but I was always pretty open about talking about it and the things I did hold back, messed up things later.
So, again, I thank the wonderful members of ENWorld. Don't know what I'd do without you guys and gals. I REALLY appreciate everything... the support, the advice, everything.
Now, I am off to share some vanilla ice cream with the kittie and then do some reading in bed. Night all.
Ok, so here's what happened today. I got a call at about 9AM this morning from my therapist, asking what was going on. I told her about the messages I'd left for her, how I'd mentioned to the receptionist that I wasn't getting calls back, that I left a message for the office manager, and about how upset I was. She said she only got the message about rescheduling, from last week, and the upset message to the office manager, so everything must have been a technical problem (which I figure goes back to about Jan 14... that's pretty bad) I guess. I'm not thrilled with the reason, but there's not much I can do about it. I told her about how things were going for me (badly) and was crying. She was very concerned about me. I told her I was out of meds (which was mentioned in one of the "lost" messages) and wondered if the Shrink could just call a prescription for a weeks meds to get me through to my appointment on Feb 4. No go... not with me so upset and not even if he talked to me on the phone, he wanted to see me in person. She called back around 10AM to say the fit me in at 2:15. I hung up the phone and burst into tears again. With me being depressed and stressed out, I hadn't showered since Mon (gross, I know, but I spent my days waiting next to the phone and by night, I was so emotionally drained from not getting called, I just went to sleep) and I wasn't sure if I was up to going out (my original post mentions how I get to the place) or up to seeing these people face to face. I called again, and left a message saying I just couldn't do it, that I'd just have to wait till next week, and that it was my hang up and I'd just have to deal. She called back at 12 and said she really wanted me to come in and just throw on a coat to catch the bus in 15 minutes ( that was the bus I had to take to make it.. the next bus was at 1:50) so I could make the appointment, and I mentioned the not having showered thing and that I really wasn't up to it (aka freaking out and upset). She asked when I could make it and I said about 3, so she said relax, take a shower, and we'll see ya down here. Well, I actually made it. She gave me a hug and said she was so happy I made it and that she was proud. Then I went to see the shrink. He asked more questions than the first time I met him (he just wrote scripts and I left) and I rambled about all the stuff I was going through and feeling. I showed him the papers he signed and he replied," I don't fill these out dear (my therapist was supposed to fill out the info, he just signs it) and passed the buck to the office girls. However, he filled it all out right there and then wrote me scripts for everything I'm on. He also asked me what I wanted to do about my meds... how should I know, I haven't even taken a college course, but I told him about what the meds I'm on do and what other meds have/haven't done, so I'm on the same stuff.
So, all is well, I guess. I got back to where I live, ran to the grocery store, picked up a ton of stuff (mostly comfort food
) since I knew I was taking a taxi home because I had to buy kittie litter and I wasn't gonna carry that home. I feel a bit more relaxed and plan to try to give my brain a break this weekend. Also, I finally got my Spike (from BtVS) calender from Amazon today after the weather delayed it's delivery (YAY!). I do have an appointment downtown w/ Social Services (bleh) (it's about whether I can work or do I get training... I was determined to be disabled by the guy guy I saw and it's the same guy I'm seeing this time) AND I got paperwork regarding my SSI being denied and how I should have a appeal hearing in about a year (grrr). Tanager said:
Mostly talking to my therapist every other week. I have alot of issues to deal with (anger over my divorce, depression, not having friends, how to make friends (I'm kinda rusty), the anxiety problem, dealing with stress) so we have alot of ground to cover. Alot of the time, we just try to get me through whatever's getting to me at the time. We are also planning on working out a treatment plan, but I'm not sure what her methods are with that yet.
My panic attacks aren't like what alot people hear as the classic symptoms, like dizzyness, feeling like you're having a heart attack, breaking out in a sweat. For me, I get really tense mentally and physically. My neck and back get all tight. Sometimes, my hands get kinda shaky and I'll get jumpy. That's mostly when I get in a tense situation. If it's me not being able to go somewhere, it's kinda like I'm paralyzed. I keep trying to get going, get ready, and it's like something's fighting me. I get more and more tense and upset, which makes it harder and harder to fight my problem and get going. It's exhausting mentally, emotionally, and physically. The last symptom, is that when I'm "freaking out" my mind is just racing, sometimes running through several different thoughts all at once. I can't focus, I can't think, and so it's even HARDER to concentrate on doing whatever I'm trying to do. All of it is really tiring and sometimes all I can do after is sleep (plus, I tend to pick being unconscious to freaking out most times.... although sometimes that bites me in the butt when I have a nightmare).
Hope that answers your questions. Don't worry about asking, I'm cool with talking about it. Yeah, it's kinda embarrasing, but I was always pretty open about talking about it and the things I did hold back, messed up things later.
So, again, I thank the wonderful members of ENWorld. Don't know what I'd do without you guys and gals. I REALLY appreciate everything... the support, the advice, everything.
Now, I am off to share some vanilla ice cream with the kittie and then do some reading in bed. Night all.
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