My GF is a vampire what do I do???

[dema]

MY GF recently joined a vampire clan in NYC, there are alot of them here, and well they all pretend to be vampires, ingage in bloodletting sometimes, and get together for some strange rituals. Anyone have anymore info about these groups???


-dema


edited for spelling-

 

[Crothian]

First, do you have a problem with it? And how serious is it? If it is bloodletting, that can actually be dangerious as there are more then a few diseases and infection that can happen because of that.

What do you want to do? Do you want to talk her out of it? Or jion with her?

 

[dema]

First, do you have a problem with it? And how serious is it? If it is bloodletting, that can actually be dangerious as there are more then a few diseases and infection that can happen because of that.

What do you want to do? Do you want to talk her out of it? Or jion with her?

Well, not really a problem with it, just concerns. About the bloodletting at least she has the sense not to engage in that. What do I want to do about it? I don't know, just wanted to know if anyone else out there has been in a similar situation. I don't think I would join that would just be rediculous, and talking her out of it, that is not an option, let her do what she wishes.

Just curious about other peoples experiences-

-dema

P.S. I miss playing DnD, god I so miss it, need to find time.

The Enworld community does not cease to amaze me......

 

[Angcuru]

I'd just tell her that if she can walk around in the sunlight and is afraid to put a bullet through her neck, then she cannot claim to be a vampire. But then again, I think people like that are insane. You however, do not, though. So if I were you, I'd just go along with her one time to see what it's like, and if it really bothers you, voice some concerns.

 

[dema]

I'd just tell her that if she can walk around in the sunlight and is afraid to put a bullet through her neck, then she cannot claim to be a vampire.

That's not polite to say. It's really a life style that they engage in. Kinda like LARP VAMPIRE the roleplaying game, just no dice, or rules, and things are real -er.


-dema

 

[Meowzebub]

As a firefighter/EMT, this gives me the shivers. In this day and age, group activies with blood are just a bad idea. I do not care if she thinks she knows these people and is not at risk. She does not know them that well. Plenty of ways to contract a disease and it is not always based on drug-use or sexual partners. By her joining this group, she is likely endangering you in the process, beyond the risk she is taking with her own health.

Dont want to be preachy here, but man, this is a bad idea!

 

[Kaleon Moonshae]

My only concern really is what was already stated. You need to find out how safe they are. I have known some vampiriphiles before who did bloodletting, but they were *extremely* careful. They took the same precautions one would with sex without protection, i.e. blood tests and frequent screenings before allowing someone in their *fold* so to speak. I wouldn't worry bout it if it is that well organized. If you think there is some danger in it then take a look at information on "bloodplay" on d/s | s/m websites and pass them on to her in a loving manner to help inform her bout the dangers and the means of precaution.

 

[dema]

Vamp

As a firefighter/EMT, this gives me the shivers. In this day and age, group activies with blood are just a bad idea. I do not care if she thinks she knows these people and is not at risk. She does not know them that well. Plenty of ways to contract a disease and it is not always based on drug-use or sexual partners. By her joining this group, she is likely endangering you in the process, beyond the risk she is taking with her own health.

Dont want to be preachy here, but man, this is a bad idea!

I understand the concern revolving around bloodletting, but I do not think that is an issue right now. I'm just concerned about that other aspects, mainly groupthink issues, and issues with loss of identity. Everything else I think is perfectly fine. So I wouldn't worry about the blood, and disease thing so much, she has proven to me that she does not partake in those activities. It's much like joining with a gang, anyone who has studied those groups ,and their outlooks would know what I am talking about. I'm just afraid of a loved one being drawn in to something dangerous.


Thanks guys, I appreciate the concerns.


-de

 

[Kaleon Moonshae]

The group think/cult aspect of things like this is a bit overrated. If she has a strong sense of self and is not prone to severe mental problems then there really isn't nearly the chance of her "losing herself." How old are we talking here? It doesn't really matter since people age and mature at different levels but it can be a clue. If she has already developed who she is then groupthink isn't quite as dangerous. I know many people who can get pretty extreme in certain lifestyles but since they know who they are then when they leave their session or congregation they are perfectly ok. Groupthink issues are only concerns with the weak willed. She doesn't sound like she is weak willed if she has taken a stand on the bloodletting issue, even if *she* changes her mind it is still *her* decision. The only time you need to worry is if you really believe something she does is *their* decision *for her* rather than her specifically.

To the EMT, I understand your concerns and agree with them, which is why I specifically brought up the background info on the group. I have friends who are professionals in the bloodletting, needleplay, fleshplay and fireplay subcultures and they take it *serious* and if someone else doesn't then they aren't invited.

 

[Meowzebub]

She does not have to be the one being cut to be put at risk, but enough on that you seem aware.

The mental/social concerns are likely valid. I would just try to engage her in other activites as well. If she shuts you out to be exclusively with her new 'friends', then you definately have a problem. A little roleplay is fun, if it becomes her life, any caution she shows now may quickly vanish in her eagerness to be accepted in the group.

But I cant say too much about this because I have never heard off these groups before. KM has some good advice that a little research on your part might ease your mind, or make you put your foot down. But I think you are very correct to be worried. Stay alert and safe

good luck