My GF is a vampire what do I do???

[Crothian]

If you think this might be dangerious for her, go with her. Experience it first hand and become part of it if at least for a while. Obviously these groups can range from the Vampire LARPs to the ultra serious "I actually think I'm a Vampire" people. THe bloodletting is a bad sign to me, I know she's not going to take part of it at first but that just shows me that this group is a little more into it then what I would call casual.

If you are concnerned with loss of her identity, that sounds to me like shes trying to find herself and explore areas of her life. You might want to help her with this, have some serious talks to her and try to find other things that will help her out.

Best of luck.

 

[Kaleon Moonshae]

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If you are concnerned with loss of her identity, that sounds to me like shes trying to find herself and explore areas of her life. You might want to help her with this, have some serious talks to her and try to find other things that will help her out.

Best of luck.

Be careful here though with the 'find other things.' You also have to at least accept the possibility that this *is* her. You can find her additional things to help her find herself but be aware that if you push her too hard away from this and it truly is her path then she may resent you and you may lose her. Just be cautious, watch and wait. Always be there to talk with her but try not to speak badly about the group and be sure to use possitive reinforcement (if you find you really don't like this group then make sure you give her a lot fo positive feedback when she does something outsdie the group). The last thing you want to do is be the *reason* she gets lost in the group. I have had friends who lost themselves in groups because their SO decided they didn't like it and tried to force them out, which only gave them more reason to "cry on their new friend's shoulder." This led to some very bad life choices to all concerned so just be careful. Let things flow at their own speed, stay *aware* and be ready. If she starts really losing herself then talk ot her and voice your concerns (in a very loving way and not "I think you're wrong") and see where it gets you. Be ready, however, to be told to go to *ell and lose her too. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst, it's usually the best for all parties if you can accept what happens and then maybe in time she will come around to your way of thinking and there will be reconciliation.

Sorry for rambling, to sum it all up.

Be patient. Be watchful. Be loving.

 

[Umbran]

In this day and age, with the disease risks being what they are, getting involved with people who play with blood is simply unwise.

The fact that she does not partake of these activities directly wouldn't relax me much. One goon who does who gets a little rambunctious in playing out biting a neck and your life changes dramatically.

There's plenty of ancedotes about groupthink pressure, sexual misconduct, drug and alcohol problems, and so on surrounding these groups. Anything you'd hear here would likewise be anecdotal. You have to weigh for yourself how much these apply to your situation.

If it were me in your shoes... I'd be very, very uncomfortable with the situation.

 

[dema]

If you think this might be dangerious for her, go with her. Experience it first hand and become part of it if at least for a while. Obviously these groups can range from the Vampire LARPs to the ultra serious "I actually think I'm a Vampire" people. THe bloodletting is a bad sign to me, I know she's not going to take part of it at first but that just shows me that this group is a little more into it then what I would call casual.

If you are concnerned with loss of her identity, that sounds to me like shes trying to find herself and explore areas of her life. You might want to help her with this, have some serious talks to her and try to find other things that will help her out.

Best of luck.

Well, to tell the truth, she was a leader type in a clan in another country, and I think she's just picking up her roots here in the U.S. now.

Guess we will see what happens, KM about the blood play, yeah, I've read those things years ago, and I understand that many groups are very serious about the well being of their members. I have met a few of these clanners, and will need to engage with them a little bit more to see where things will go.


-d

 

[Crothian]

Well, to tell the truth, she was a leader type in a clan in another country, and I think she's just picking up her roots here in the U.S. now.

Guess we will see what happens, KM about the blood play, yeah, I've read those things years ago, and I understand that many groups are very serious about the well being of their members. I have met a few of these clanners, and will need to engage with them a little bit more to see where things will go.

Oh, well if she was involved with this type of thing before then it should be better, and since she was a leader hopefully she'll have a much better idea of how to fined a group that is safe and more for what she needs. I was thinking that she was new to the Vampire scene and just entering it for the first time.

But still show some interest in it and in her. If you have concerns express them to her.

 

[Kaleon Moonshae]

Yeah, prior experience changes a lot of things. I also thought she was new to it all. If she was a leader and she has been able to lead an ok life without it since she left that country then I wouldn't be worried about the groupmind thing, she's strong enough to handle it. More of worry is the idle complex some others might get with her if she has experience and they don't, basically the reverse the of the typical groupthink problem.

 

[Richards]

If it was me, I'd ask her to take me to one of the club meetings to see her whole vampire "gang" for myself.

...And then I'd whip out the large crucifix and wooden stake I had smuggled inside my coat pocket, just to see their reaction.

But that's just me.

Johnathan

 

[Olgar Shiverstone]

If it was me, I'd ask her to take me to one of the club meetings to see her whole vampire "gang" for myself.

...And then I'd whip out the large crucifix and wooden stake I had smuggled inside my coat pocket, just to see their reaction.

Brings to mind images of "fun with holy water".

 

[Kaleon Moonshae]

if they're all cute and like to nibble necks, I'm in. I'll bring the holy water filled super soaker and half a wet vampshirt contest

 

[dema]

I'm a vampire too now

if they're all cute and like to nibble necks, I'm in. I'll bring the holy water filled super soaker and half a wet vampshirt contest

well ok this is what's happened, I decided to engage in the blood sucking thing, and well she enjoyed it, then things turned xxx rated, and now I guess I will have to see how the vampire clan thing goes. I guess I am supporting the fantasy, but I love her, and want to see her happy, I know she will be able to handle the clan thing, she's done it before.

Anway, I'm a dungeon master so I have powers over vamps right? god this stuf is so god darn silly. Wish me luck. Good gaming everyone, and thanks for the input.

About the bringing stakes and holywater, well, yeah, I've joked about that stuff but she wasn't amused. She also been reading what everyone wrote as things were happening here on ENworld. I wanted her to see people reactions ,and let her know that the DnDers are nice, and civilized people for the most part. Thanks guys, I appreciate your time to my little pointless life dilema.

-de

p.s. she told me I'm a vamp now that I sucked her blood, and she sucked mine. there are some really strange people out there, and then there are people that end up falling in love with them. And the world keeps on going.