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My wife won't let me play D&D.
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<blockquote data-quote="ForceUser" data-source="post: 401679" data-attributes="member: 2785"><p>Yikes. I feel for you.</p><p></p><p>Before a friend of mine got engaged, he made it very clear to his future wife that gaming was a big part of his life and that she would have to accept it as part of being with him. If I ever find that special someone, I intend to do the same. </p><p></p><p>After the fact, it's a lot tougher. </p><p></p><p>Ok. She hates it when you game. Ask her this: would you mind if I spent a Sunday afternoon once a month watching football with my friends? If she says no, then your followup question would be "What if, instead of football, I chose to spend that time with them gaming? Sweetie (<---- Important!), how is that any different?"</p><p></p><p>The thing about spouses is that they don't always seem reasonable in their demands on you. I know; I was married once. Often, there is an underlying issue that presents itself as something else. In your case, from my armchair quarterback position, I would say her real issue is that she feels you don't spend enough time with her; thus, your gaming makes her angry. Ask yourself - are you spending enough quality time with your wife? Dinner and TV on a weeknight don't count, either. You need to show effort that you are engaging in events specifically designed to spend quality time with her - Friday nights dancing at the club, theatre outings (plays, not movies!), picnics, whatever. You'd know better than us.</p><p></p><p>To be honest, every spouse handles these issues differently. You know your wife, we don't. Whatever compromise you find is going to be based on that knowledge. All we are doing here is guessing on your behalf. Good luck, buddy. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ForceUser, post: 401679, member: 2785"] Yikes. I feel for you. Before a friend of mine got engaged, he made it very clear to his future wife that gaming was a big part of his life and that she would have to accept it as part of being with him. If I ever find that special someone, I intend to do the same. After the fact, it's a lot tougher. Ok. She hates it when you game. Ask her this: would you mind if I spent a Sunday afternoon once a month watching football with my friends? If she says no, then your followup question would be "What if, instead of football, I chose to spend that time with them gaming? Sweetie (<---- Important!), how is that any different?" The thing about spouses is that they don't always seem reasonable in their demands on you. I know; I was married once. Often, there is an underlying issue that presents itself as something else. In your case, from my armchair quarterback position, I would say her real issue is that she feels you don't spend enough time with her; thus, your gaming makes her angry. Ask yourself - are you spending enough quality time with your wife? Dinner and TV on a weeknight don't count, either. You need to show effort that you are engaging in events specifically designed to spend quality time with her - Friday nights dancing at the club, theatre outings (plays, not movies!), picnics, whatever. You'd know better than us. To be honest, every spouse handles these issues differently. You know your wife, we don't. Whatever compromise you find is going to be based on that knowledge. All we are doing here is guessing on your behalf. Good luck, buddy. :) [/QUOTE]
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