Narrow-minded hypocrite

LostSoul · Mar 14, 2002

Go out for a couple of beers with the guy. Talk about the game. You should be able to figure out what is problem is pretty soon (and whether or not it's game related).

Henry · Mar 14, 2002

I agree with PCat on this, as it is something I have done at least once per campaign. Get a consensus from all your players about whether and how much they like your campaign, and if he is the only dissenter, then calmly explain (in front of the group is risky, but you do have peer pressure going for you if it works well) that some of his activities are very disrupting for your game, and it honestly makes it harder on you as a DM, when he does not take his arguments before or after the game. If he wants to camplain, fine, but ask him not to do it during the game.

It really sounds as if he is having problems with one thing in-game that is irking him enough to be contrary, or if really could be real-world problems. Regardless, if he is spoling the game for all involved, he needs to either make helpful suggestions for what he would like, or he needs to take up another game group if your game is unsatisfactory.

Good Luck!

Zappo · Mar 14, 2002

LostSoul said:
Go out for a couple of beers with the guy. Talk about the game. You should be able to figure out what is problem is pretty soon (and whether or not it's game related).

And if that doesn't work, a couple more will do.

machine · Mar 14, 2002

Hmm...

It seems that something outside the game could be causing this individual's behavior.

Do you know of anything in this person's life that is causing much stress/unhappiness?

Or are the behaviors limited only to the game?

machine.

dagger · Mar 15, 2002

Well I say life is to short to have to deal with people like this. Give him the boot!

nick · Mar 15, 2002

How common is it for a player to roleplay a character of the opposite sex? I've never had that in any of the campaigns I've been a part of.

Darklone · Mar 15, 2002

Hmm

PLaying a char of the opposite sex? Very common in PBeMs. Otherwise... I had a lot of women who wanted to play men ... that's another matter...

About that character: Same here as Berandor, at first I thought you're talking about me

*JOKE ALERT* But then I saw those two 18s...

Nah. Talk with him. Explain your point of view to him. Perhaps write him a letter similar to that post. That tends to make it easier not to get enraged and stop to listen. Tell him, you gonna dump him if it does not stop.

I am right now in a similar situation towards my single DM (in the other groups I am the boss, erhm RBDM). First I wanted to quit, then I wrote him a letter what bugs me (I am in this campaign for 3 years now and 4 levels lower than the old players... he does not give me a chance to make more Xps. That's kinda ok. I could have lived with it. But when I got raised, I lost a level (more Xps than I made in the last year), the big ones get raised and don't lose levels nor Xps.)

I think: You are friends. Somehow. Talk. If that does not work, bad luck. But try.

herald · Mar 15, 2002

Simply put. Tell him that if he doesn't like the show, flip the channel. In other words, he's free to quit, but not free to complain.

And if he continues, CUT HIM!!!!!!!

He's ruining it for himself and others. He needs to find something else to bring himself out of his depression.

Methinkus · Mar 15, 2002

Go out for a couple of beers with the guy. Talk about the game. You should be able to figure out what is problem is pretty soon (and whether or not it's game related).

This is just what I was going to tell you. Do something with him Outside The Game. See if this guy is worth keeping around at all, I could never be comfortable RPing with people whom I would not like to hang out with under normal circumstances. This guy sounds like a Jackdonkey, but maybe there is something more to his attitude.

In any event, it sounds like you have more than enough happy players without him to continue the campaign no matter what happens.

kkoie · Mar 15, 2002

I also agree that there is probably more to this situation than whats happening in the game.

Since he wasn't always like this, and now he all of a sudden is essentially upset about anything and everything, then something has happened or is happening thats causing him distress.

Like the other poster suggested, take him out for a few beers (or cokes) and just try and figure out what the problem is, if anything to open the conversation you could tell him what you told us, that he hasn't always been upset so frequently and you are obviously conserned.

Keep in mind, that the problem might be so simple that he doesn't think their is a problem, in which case you might have to tell him to "take a vacation" until he can cool off.

K Koie