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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Larry Fitz" data-source="post: 990642" data-attributes="member: 3949">Hunh?Let me see if I have this straight. He makes inappropriate comments in front of and to your youngest member (because you singled this person out I'm assuming they are significantly younger, and that their age conributes to the level of inappropriateness) and he has a new girfriend who makes similar comments. For an indeterminate portion of time his attendance was erratic because he was spending time on Saturdays with his new girlfriend. He's a good enough friend that he comes over with her and hangs out with the group (which includes someone substantially younger than the rest of you) on nights that are not dedicated to gaming. Is it possible the real innappropriate thing here is that you are socializing with someone so much younger than the rest of you?The group talks negatively about him behind his back. He creeps the group out. Why?  Why does your post not include any instances of anyone asking him politely not to embarass the younger person, and telling him he makes people uncomfortable when he does embarass the GM that way? Most of the well thought out responses here advocate direct communication and no equivocation. However so far the efforts you have made seem to consist of talking about this guy behind his back and trying to get him to stop playing without actually discussing any of this with him. Is he a friend to anyone at the game? Do they intend to continue being his friend after telling him that he is no longer welcome at the primary social function where that friendship is expressed? From the vague outline you've given it seems just as likely that he is not neccessarily the person with the problem here. In fact is response to the first e-mail was recognition that his new girlfriend might be having a negative impact on the game and his assurance that he was dedicated to making the game on a more regular basis. If the group were more open with him it may never have gotten to this point, if the group could be more open with him now, perhaps the differences could be resolved amicably or he could move on to a group of peers instead.</blockquote>

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