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Message: <blockquote data-quote="BlackMoria" data-source="post: 991311" data-attributes="member: 424">Honest dialogue is required here.I am not a member of your group so I don't know all the facts and how creeped out people are but this is what I would do (based on the information at hand).I would talk to the guy before Saturday.  Be candid.  Tell him that straight out the girlfriend is not welcome to the game, even as a observer, and explain why.Then tell him that the other group members are uncomfortable with his comments and any other behavior the others don't like.Lay out some rules of conduct (the rules under which the group will accept him back), then tell him he is welcome to Saturday's game but only if he will abide by the rules of conduct and that he is considered 'on probation' until further notice.If he breaches, he gets kicked to the curb.  If he conforms, he can stay but only as long as he continues to abide by the rules of conduct.Then leave it in his court.   The advantage with this method is it is all up to him - he decides whether the rules of conduct and being on probation is worth changing his behavior for.  Or he will decide that they are too restrictive and he will leave the game.Don't be surprised if he doesn't show up for the game.  I think his priorities are elsewhere.At any rate, best of luck with this.</blockquote>